DD1 has been going to the same nursery for 2 years. I now have 4 month old DD2 who is usually with me in her pram when I pick up/drop off DD1.
Now, often at drop off when I am helping DD1 remove coat/bag and giving her a hug DD2 will have a little whinge whilst I am out of sight (not a cry, just a little whingy noise). This nusery worker who answers the door to us almost every day will usually say something along the lines of "Oh dear, is she hungry/does she need feeding" usually directed at DD1. This always makes me think, "It's 9 in the morning, do you think I've left the house without feeding my baby" but I let it go as people tend to say these things just for something to say and she is just engaging DD1 in conversation about her little sister.
Today though, this nursery worker answered when I went to pick up DD1 and whilst DD1 was getting coat on etc she said "Do you think your sister is awake or asleep?" DD1 said "Awake" and nursery worker said "Do you think shes been fed today?" DD1 ignored this one.
Now, I was doubly at this comment! I mean what is she on about? Does she think that by 1 in the afternoon I may not have got around to feeding my baby yet? Surely this isn't the kind of thing that you just say to make conversation? I know this is long but I am genuinely wondering why on earth she said this!
Just to add, I hate in general the way random people feel the need to tell you why your baby is making noise, "Oh she's tired/hungry/teething" like you know! I always want to say "Maybe she just doesn't like you gawking at her"
I think you're overthinking this. She's just trying to talk to your DD1 about her baby. I used to say the same sort of things to my DD1 when her sister was born. It was just something she could easily talk about and it helped her feel involved.
I think the second bit YA prob a little U. It's only a harmless, don't-know-what-else-to-say conversation filler. I know a lot of people don't want a crying baby to go unacknowledged (word?), but not in a way that screams 'shut the baby up'.
But I'd find the first bit odd too. Why would she ask a child who hadn't been there all day, who probably has little concept of the intricacies of home life while they're not around. Or maybe I'm overthinking it with you
Thanks anotherreallyithinknot I think it is just a stupid comment! I probably am giving too much thought to it, but the tone most definitely implied and refered to the fact she is often whingy at drop off. I also think its because these kind of comments annoy me in general
I see it like this, she made light hearted comment about whether baby was hungry, and by asking DD she was merely referring back to the in "joke"...and it wasn't like crying for hunger was far fetched...would empathize if she'd said "aww, is mummy beating baby up?"...lol You are defo over thinking this, and that's coming from someone who usually reads into everything!!