Preferably before I throttle my husband.
He's come home from work today, all ashen and melodramatic, vocabulary reduced to "cup of tea milk two sugars"... and vanished off to bed.
Meanwhile guess who is charged with moving all our worldly goods to new house down the street a box at a time? Muggins - just shifted 10 boxes of books downstairs - and he's slept through it alllllll.
Incidentally - I had this bug a few days ago, felt pants, went to bed early a couple of nights but managed thirty nursery kids and packing boxes through it all - he's just a wimp! And his bloody mother encourages it!
Science must find a cure and save all our relationships before we kill the male of the species in frustration. If he thinks I'm cooking dinner tonight as well he's got another thing coming and I'll stick the hedgehog bread somewhere the sun don't shine!
AIBU?
To think we really need to find a cure for man flu?
emptyshell · 25/11/2010 13:17
My dp once convinced me he had glandular fever for two days and had me running round after him 
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It was only when I was telling a friend how ill he was and how I had cooked him a chicken curry from scratch as it was the only thing he fancied a woman apologised for butting in and told me no way did he have GF as you could hardly sip water never mind eat curry.
Turned out the GP had taken blood which would test for infections including GF but she thought he probably just had a 24 hour bug.
He has also sat and watched me try and feed a screaming baby,sort out two preschoolers and cook a meal while he nursed his cold flu.
Then there was the time he said he had foot rot and needed to buy brand new trainers ..it was dry skin.
This was all a few years ago now and he has shot himself in the foot because I don't give him any sympathy now when he is ill as I just don't believe him.
DH gets absolutely no sympathy from me when he has a cold. If he wants to lay around in bed that's up to him, but he doesn't get meals or cups of tea brought to him. He will usually get straight on the phone to his mum for some proper sympathy
This drives me nuts too! DH regularly gets bad headaches, which I know are rotten and I do have sympathy to a certain extent. Years ago when he got a headache the whole world stopped and he would turn into this moaning grump who could really be quite a shit. So one day I told him that yes, I was aware he had a headache, but to that didn't give him the right be a moody lump. He was a bit taken aback but could see how pathetic he was being, particularly when I've soldiered through vicious period pain with barely a word. In my view it's fine to state that you're in pain/ill but after that whinging and whining will not get you any sympathy. It took me a while to get the message across but basically every time he tried to be grumpy with a headache I just called him on it. Nowadays he hardly even mentions them, and I know that's not because they're any less painful but because he knows that as an adult the world doesn't stop unless you're genuinely ill. I do honestly think also that because he doesn't lay around whining he doesn't suffer as much because it doesn't really interfere with his life any more.
That said, a minor cold still warrants airlifting the nearest emergency centre! I indulge him now to a certain extent but I do believe that once you have kids you don't get to stop unless you're genuinely half dead. Our first is due in December so he might get a bit of a land the next time he tells me he has the "flu"
My DH does this too - but he won't help himself. If he has a headache I say 'take a parcetamol' he'll say 'no, i don't want to be taking them things all the time they're no good for you' but he's happy to be in paid in pain all day and moan to me about it!
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