I am rather pissed off so I think my opinion may be skewed.
In a nutshell- 3 ds -h has always favoured middle ds -its a well known fact the other 2 know it Grandparents know it even new friends see it straight away.
We live with it.
Its not nice there being one rule for one ds and ds2 getting a different (more relaxed) rule and of course ds1 resents it (ds1 is 17) fortunately I am or thought I was close to all 3 ds.....however ds2 recently has a gf (hes 15) shes 13 .....(im not overly happy about this not the girl cos ive never met her but I think what a 15 year old boy finds in a relationship might be very different from what a 13 year old girl is emotionally ready for),anyway this is the point of my AIBU.....DS2 has M.E and as a result can become quite poorly (its always me that copes with this) so over the past few months we had been working at him resting more so he can get to school more hes doing GCSE's.
Dh is allowing him to visit the girls house several times a week and for hours and hours at the weekend.....she doesnt live nearby he needs driving there or on occasion he catches a bus....he is very moody I attribute that to his everlasting tiredness but its not just that the hours he spends out are not helping his health.
Ds1 was encouraged to stay in and study at this stage......ds2 well hes his own boss.
I cannot parent properly if H is constantly undermining me.
Whats brought on this lengthy post is yesterday ds couldnt find something he wanted for school and threw loads of stuff around and was shouting at me ......I told h later about this (he was still in bed)and he said he didnt hear anything.....i said as a result he wasnt to go to gfs house today after school,turns out ds2 told his Dad it was me who started shouting and mentioned some things Id said that were untrue and h is claiming to have heard them....(he couldnt i didnt say them,and what man would lie in bed knowing his 15 year old son was ranting at his mum?).....so Ds is going to his gfs after school with no punishments and im shit over again.
DS1 and 3 are fed up of this.
H isnt working much at the mo but isnt helping in the home and continues to behave like Lord and Master.
And hes said that if we split up hes taking ds2 with him.
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Is my H being a knob?
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dracschick · 25/11/2010 08:13
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