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To learn how to say no

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twoteens Wed 24-Nov-10 13:43:37

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LittleMissHissyFit Wed 24-Nov-10 13:49:53

You have to text her back and say, on reflection, looking at the work schedule, financial situation you are going to have to cancel the trip.

You have to put yourself first in this. A merger is a stressful time and pressure on jobs will be higher, you need to be seen performing.

Perhaps you could suggest a couple of days at Easter as a compromise?

Once you have sent the text, any calls she makes to you only needs you to reiterate what you have told her.

Sorry, it's just not going to work this year. I can't do it.

badfairy Wed 24-Nov-10 14:20:48

I think you just have to bite the bullet and say as nicely as you can that you really can't do it this year. She is going to be disappointed and maybe a bit pissed off but there is really no point if you are going to get stressed out and not enjoy it. Maybe like a pp said you could come up with a compromise of seeing her later on in the New Year.

plupervert Wed 24-Nov-10 17:07:48

Talk to her ASAP to make sure she doesn't actually book the tickets for you! If she's not really "hearing" your "no", you might have to say it more definitely, and don't get into discussion, as at the end of the discussion she might think you have changed your mind (as seems to have happened with your earlier discussion!).

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