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DP says I screwed up. Please tell me I didn't!

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mamateur Wed 24-Nov-10 11:19:24

Or as you wish. DP has had a knackered old van parked in the city where we used to live for over a year. He nearly got around to selling it about six months ago, was offered 550 (it had 6 month's MOT). Since then, I've had to renew the tax which had actually run out (I spotted the letter in the post) as I could have been towed. But he didn't quite manage to get round to closing the deal, and the van continued to grace a private road (no doubt annoying the neighbours as it's not exactly a chariot of gold). We just moved and need a dishwasher and tumble dryer, so I said to him I would sell it for him and use the money for that. He agreed. The MOT runs out at the end of November. I stuck it in a car mag for 400. He was a bit cross and said it was worth 500 which it probably is. I reminded him that was with 6 month's MOT. Then I got really bad flu so instead of going up there on the train (£20) and hanging around with DS (14 months and steaming around like a train) for viewings, and with one week before the MOT expired, I mailed the keys to a guy who sounded serious about buying it. He went round, started it with jump leads (not be driven for a year) and offered me 350 because someone has daubed graffiti over one said and it will cost a bit to be resprayed.

So I just told DP I got 350 and he hit the roof.


SkeletonFlowers Wed 24-Nov-10 11:21:37

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littleomar Wed 24-Nov-10 11:22:00

sounds like you did really well, so yabu. as long as the guy pays you...

GeorgeWBush Wed 24-Nov-10 11:22:08

should have done it himself then shouldn't he?!

ChippingIn Wed 24-Nov-10 11:22:45


He is being a complete arse - he should have got off his lazy backside and sold it himself if he was going to quibble over the price. Just tell him he's bloody lucky to have got that for it! You are both fortunate that the neighbours didn't get it towed away as it's sat there that long - being a complete eye sore for them!

BuntyPenfold Wed 24-Nov-10 11:23:08

No, you got a better price than he did i.e. nothing.

Deliaskis Wed 24-Nov-10 11:23:59

I think if he was that ar$ed about it he should have sorted it himself.

I think you took a bit of a risk posting some keys to a stranger, but given that he has not just nicked it, then I think it's probably a fair deal. It may have graffiti on it, it might just be looking and feeling a bit sh!tter than it was when you last saw it.


RiojaLover75 Wed 24-Nov-10 11:24:34

Well he should have got off HIS arse and sold it himself then! shock

If he'd sold it when he said he would then he'd have got a lot more for it, them's the breaks!

At least you don't have to think about it any more, it's gone, finished smile

ENormaSnob Wed 24-Nov-10 11:25:08


doubtful you would have got anymore if it's got grafitti on and needed a jump start.

Your dh should have sold it himself instead of procastinating.

Poledra Wed 24-Nov-10 11:25:45

Nope. You want to look for LeQueen's threads about her husband's BMW. There's something to do with a vehicle being abandoned, and someone else writing to the police/DVLA and asking to claim it. So, at some point in the last year, someone else could have claimed and driven the van off without your DH getting anything from it.

If he was so bothered about it, he should have done something about it. At least you got a reasonable sum for it (without having to tax/MOT it again).

It's a damn sight better than losing a BMW with a private reg plate...........

mamateur Wed 24-Nov-10 11:25:49

Quite. The thing is, I could have turned him down, then arranged to meet all the other interested parties on Friday, freezing my netties off with DS and his runny nose, next to a horrible obscenity-daubed jalopy. Not a good look.

Plus the train fare, getting the keys back from the bloke, etc.

The 400 price was before we knew about the graffiti.

He's being such a twat. In a couple of days it would have cost us 6 month's tax and mot.

WhyHavePets Wed 24-Nov-10 11:26:12

YANBU he is being a prat.

Make sure you show him the (most likely unanimous) responses you get on this thread won't you!

To Op's DP, if you want something doing your way do it yourself, if someone is prepared to do it for you quit moaning.

mamateur Wed 24-Nov-10 11:27:06

LeQ's story has more panache than mine...

mamateur Wed 24-Nov-10 11:29:16

Littleomar, unless he pays he won't be the legal owner as I have the registration docs and logbook etc. So he'd be driving a stolen vehicle. Should be ok I think. He's been pretty straight on the phone.

TheSkiingGardener Wed 24-Nov-10 11:31:07


He had his chance and did nothing. You are now £350 up. Well done.

Nagoo Wed 24-Nov-10 11:33:31

YANBU once you've got the cash in your pocket.

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar Wed 24-Nov-10 11:33:37

You got £350 more for it than he did - he has eff-all to complain about.

Why didn't he get off his arse and sell it himself?

wotnochocs Wed 24-Nov-10 11:34:16

You just left a pile of sh*t parked on some random street for a year ? Do you really mean a private road ie private land?

Sarsaparilllla Wed 24-Nov-10 11:35:15

YANBU, if it had been left to him it probably would've sat there for another 6 months, maybe a year by which point it might have been totally tashed and worth nothing at all.

Sarsaparilllla Wed 24-Nov-10 11:36:49

Oh and if it had been parked outside my house for a year and covered in grafitti I might have reported it as abandoned to the police, I'd have thought it was stolen? You're lucky nobody did really

mamateur Wed 24-Nov-10 11:37:25

Just a normal residential street wotno. Such an awful thing to do.

He's just further besmirched his copybook by referring to the dishwasher and tumble dryer the money is to help to buy as...


Oh dear. Do let him have it ladies.

FindingMyMojo Wed 24-Nov-10 11:38:56

YANBU you did very well and should be very pleased. He's lucky it wasn't towed & wrecked in the last year.

Enjoy your new dishwasher

Itsjustafleshwound Wed 24-Nov-10 11:39:39

Kick him in the balls - he deserves it!!

mloo Wed 24-Nov-10 11:42:37

Serve his tea up on a dirty plate and leave his clean but still damp clothes piled high somewhere going moldy, seeing how he doesn't see the value of "your machines".

fedupofnamechanging Wed 24-Nov-10 11:42:43

He will appreciate 'your machines' when he has clean,dry clothes and dishes to put his dinner on! He is being a prat.

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