Sorry...EP is Ex Partner. Ds has had no contact for 18 months. She won't allow contact and wants to change our GD's surname to her maiden name because apparently GD will be traumatised by having a different surname. (she lives with her mum & maternal GP's)
Traumatised is a bit strong... Loads of children have different surnames these days. Mine have a different surname to me. Only because DP and i are not married and they have his surname. It's no big deal anymore. Why has DS had no contact?...18 months is a long time. Do you have contact with GD.?
If you have not seen her for 18 months, surely your ds has more to worry about than her name which is neither here nor there. If you have a dd, more than likely any children she has will have different surnames from you but they will still be your grandchildren!
If it were my son, I would be hoping he would be going to court to request access, rather than going about a name!
Merrilyd..agree with the different surname. This is exactly what we put in our statement. Mum has flatly refused contact. When son phoned he was accused of being abusive and she changed her phone number. Couldn't visit cos her dad threatened him. Birthday cards to GD have been returned. Don't know what else to do.
interesting that ds hadn't bothered to apply for contact order in the prior 18 mos...
any chance of him contacting xp rationally and sitting down with her to agree to some supervised contact prior to the hearing? (this would go down well, presumably, if she is accusing him of being abusive - supervised contact would leave her with no real room to turn down the request.)
if she has 'serious issues' then why isn't he applying for custody? does he feel that his dd is in safe hands?
Madwoman..........not that he can't be bothered. We hoped that she would eventually come around. He can't afford massive legal fees as we know she will oppose contact. She has serious issues with DS....we don't doubt her capability as a mum.