not to go on girls night out?

[Dolanette]

A girls night away has been planned for this wkend. I originally agreed to go as I thought it was just my three close friends and I.
Now three extras are going, friends of theirs but not mine really now.

I was quite close to two of the extras up to about 2 yrs ago. However I feel they have really abandoned our friendship. One of them used to call to visit quite regularly, met a fella and now has nothing to do with me. She hasn't even seen my 15 month old baby :-(
My question: Is it U to pull out of night away because you don't like three of the girls on the night out!

[muggglewump]

Well if you really won't enjoy it, then don't go, but I think YABU with your reasons.
People's lives move in different directions sometimes, and this may be a good time to reconnect.
You haven't said anything that makes me think they've been awful to you.

Do they have children?

[Dolanette]

Well my 'friend' who lives in same town hasn't visited me for over 15 months. No none of them have children.

[anonymosity]

I wouldn't bother. But then the thought of a "girls night out" fills me with abject horror, mainly because I'm a one-on-one sort of socializer at the best of times, aka miserable.

[Squitten]

And have you asked said friend why she hasn't visited you? Perhaps she has had some stuff going on?

Just thinking you might actually use this as a nice way to reconnect with your friends

[doublechocchip]

I think you may have fun if you go. I have several friends, some of who i see reguarly and others who I see every few months who havent seen my children either- I have a good laugh with them and dont feel like 'mum to.....' when Im with them. Just take them for how they are- its hard when people settle down and have families, I know a couple of my friends always ring before they come round in case they are 'intruding' on family life!