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MummikinsOopNorth Tue 16-Nov-10 11:10:01

...who have just lost their dog.

Their elderly dog died last week and I am due to see them tomorrow, and I thought it might be a nice idea to give them a sympathy card. When my dog was euthanised, the vets sent a card soon after and i've cherished it since.

What do you all think?

aleene Tue 16-Nov-10 11:12:34

if they would be touched by your gesture of course you should do it. A little kindness goes a long way.

sims2fan Tue 16-Nov-10 11:16:47

My mum went to drop a card round at a friend's house after her cat died. My mum said she felt a bit daft when writing it, but figured that as the woman had absolutely no family, her cats were as important to her as children. Anyway, the woman was absolutely thrilled, got all teary eyed, etc, so my mum felt quite pleased that she had bothered.

CrazyPlateLady Tue 16-Nov-10 11:29:30

Personally, I think it is a bit ridiculous. Sorry but you asked. Like sending Fathers Day cards etc from the Dog.

Ladyofthehousespeaking Tue 16-Nov-10 11:31:12

Aw no I think that's really lovely

fayc84 Tue 16-Nov-10 11:34:44

Our vet sent a card after our cat was put down - along with their bill! I thought it was a nice touch though. Not sure how I would've felt about friends sending cards, but if you think your friends will appreciate it then why not?

kreecherlivesupstairs Tue 16-Nov-10 11:34:45

Totally agree with crazyplatelady. Madness. My DSIL would appreciate that, but, she's fuckin bonkers and lives for her cat. Goodness knows what will happen when her reason for living stops living itself.

anoknockingmyhousedown Tue 16-Nov-10 11:35:11

Do it. If someone is very attached to their dog, they will be devastated and I think a note/call or whatever is entirely appropriate.

This is nothing like a Fathers Day card from the dog!!!!! Don't be so ridiculous CPL

It's about supporting their friends at an emotional time. Even if you think dogs are stupid, THEY don't think dogs are stupid and they just lost their family pet and companion.

YANBU.

emptyshell Tue 16-Nov-10 11:39:27

I'd be touched by it. I'd be bereft if the moggball died - she's not my baby, but she is a slightly dotty nagging aunt type figure in this house (kind of a feline Margaret Thatcher/Anne Widdicombe). Even if it's not a formal sympathy card - just a note that you're thinking of them would be really nice - I hate people who belittle the bond you can have with a pet you've lived with for a decade or so (I've had the tripod 8 years).

My family think its hilarious to send me valentines cards from the cat which are incredibly sad but it always amuses me that they actually MAKE this stuff!

GiddyPickle Tue 16-Nov-10 11:39:29

Sympaty cards aren't for the person (or dog) who has died. They are for the people left behind. If your friend is very upset at the loss (which she probably is) then why is it daft to send a card to let her know you are sorry and thinking about her?

I am not a pet person really but I do send cards to friends who lose pets as its obvious that they are going to be grieving (not for every stick insect and goldfish but definitely long loved family pets).

whatdoiknowanyway Tue 16-Nov-10 11:41:01

Not a pet person but I think it's a good idea. What's wrong with showing sympathy at a time when a friend clearly needs it?

Tidey Tue 16-Nov-10 11:44:27

I think I have seen 'Sympathy on the loss of your pet' cards, so presumably people do send them. If you think it would be a comfort and a nice gesture, do it.

AMumInScotland Tue 16-Nov-10 11:47:54

Go for it - you are expressing your sympathy at their sadness. It doesn't imply that the dog was a person, like cards "from" the dog would do. Its from you to them, because you care that they'll be upset about this.

eaglewings Tue 16-Nov-10 11:48:17

Go for it, it sounds a lovely idea

LadyWellian Tue 16-Nov-10 11:50:34

If you're not sure, why not just send a blank card - ie not an actual 'sympathy' one and write your own message? I think it's a nice idea.

eaglewings Tue 16-Nov-10 11:50:34

mum in scotland that was x posted honest!

nannynobnobs Tue 16-Nov-10 11:52:48

You can buy some really sweet thoughtful ones from Pets at Home, which have sympathy messages in them.

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