Sorry, it might be long.
One of my Aunts, the youngest, E, has recently disclosed to my Mother that she was sexually abused as a young child by their older brother and also by another Aunts, L's, now husband. E has had a borderline drink problem for years and has obviously struggled to cope, having never even told her DH, who she thought would no longer lover her.
My Mother discussed with my other Aunt, R, and R said that L's DH had also abused her. Both my aunts were aged about 10-14 when this happened and it happened repeatedly. My Uncle has admitted the abuse, he is apparently getting private help and has been for years. He has no children and isn't around any as far as we know, he lives abroad.
L has several daughters, who are now having DC of their own. There was also an 'incident' some years back where one of L's daughters went to E saying her father had been physically abusing her and 'jumping up and down on her stomach' in case she was pregnant as she'd slept with her boyfriend. E contacted social services and L didn't speak to her for years.
Anyway, the upshot is that my Aunts are reluctant to tell L as they feel she will deny it has happened and say they are lying. (this is what happened when her DH assaulted her daughter and social services did nothing as the DD ended up saying she'd made it up) I however, feel that L has a right to know and that also social services should probably be involved as this man is around children that may need protection. L has a lot of influence over her DD's. I do feel a little like I am sticking my nose in though and that my Aunts/Mother should have more time to deal with this, but I am not sure if E and R would prefer to 'sweep it under the carpet' and forget about it all. I appreciate they are victims, but there are children that may be at risk here.
Would I be unreasonable to contact L myself and also social services?
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familyupsidedown · 11/11/2010 17:34
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