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think how could a women know she wasn't pregnant

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AuntiePickleBottom Mon 08-Nov-10 00:10:40

i have been watching, i didn't know i was pregnant, and think how did they not know

OldLadyKnowsNothing Mon 08-Nov-10 00:12:20

Quite easily, apparently. Some women continue to have regular "periods", don't grow a massive baby belly etc. On a recent thread on this topic, a midwife hadn't realised!

booyhoo Mon 08-Nov-10 00:13:34

haven't seen this but thought I'd respond.

lots of women don't have regular periods. an ex colleague always had problems with periods disappearing for months at a time. eventually after they had been gone for 7 months she went to GP to get something sorted. she was 7 months pregnant. had no idea, no bump, size 10 girl. but she suddenly bloomed the following week grin

booyhoo Mon 08-Nov-10 00:14:09

and there are those who have periods throughout tehir pregnancy.

booyhoo Mon 08-Nov-10 00:14:39

i would love to discover i was 7 months gone.

ShowOfHandsInEpistolaryForm Mon 08-Nov-10 00:15:12

Easy. I know I'm not pg right now. grin

booyhoo Mon 08-Nov-10 00:16:49

grin just noticed this SOH. no, I'm not either.

bruffin Mon 08-Nov-10 00:17:08

My sister didn't know she was pregnant until she was 5 months, because she had PCOS and never had regular periods. Also new another girl who didn't find out until about 6 months and sadly lost the baby within a week of finding out.

AuntiePickleBottom Mon 08-Nov-10 00:18:05

it just baffles me

jasper Mon 08-Nov-10 00:18:09

OP I've always wondered that too.
Aspecially the ones who find out when they are in labour [skeptical]

booyhoo Mon 08-Nov-10 00:18:57

sonia from eastenders stylee? grin

midlandsmumof4 Mon 08-Nov-10 00:33:30

Me...we are talking 30 years ago. Went to docs with severe stomach pains after eating certain foods. Having ruled out wind grin and prescribing various meds he finally picked up the phone & booked an appointment there & then with local hospital. (It was that easy back then). Saw the consultant the following week who asked how far along I was in my pregnancy.....17 weeks apparently. [shocked]. Scan 2 weeks later showed I was actually 32 weeks-even more [shocked]. Three hour labour eventually.

sb6699 Mon 08-Nov-10 00:34:31

With my first, I didnt know I was pregnant until 18 weeks.

I have never had regular periods, had no other symptoms and non-existent belly.

I was actually on the pill at the time as well, so had no reason to even suspect it.

jasper Mon 08-Nov-10 00:41:32

midlandsmum had you gained weight?
Were you biggish to begin with?

BustleInYourHedgerow Mon 08-Nov-10 00:47:19

Happened a girl I worked with. She was 17, had the implant. Had no bump, but is very tall so maybe that hid it? She went home from work with bad back pain one day and we heard she had a baby that night. She really had no idea and it took her a long time to come to terms with it. Her DP left her as he thought she had planned it, but her family helped her through, and now she's a fantastic mum.

MoralDefective Mon 08-Nov-10 01:09:41

It baffles me too
How can you have regular periods throughout your pregnancy.
I mean,are they 'proper' periods,not just spotting?
DD has a friend at work who 'found out' she was pregnant about a month before she was due.

booyhoo Mon 08-Nov-10 01:12:10

i don't know moral but i do know it has happened.

ApocalypseCheese Mon 08-Nov-10 01:30:32

I was fairly young when I got pregnant with dd, family were going through hell at the time and I kept it secret for over 8 months (went to hospital appts etc tho ) only got found out when I was spotted at the maternity clinic by mothers friend.

Didn't have a bump, no sickness, barely any movement. The midwife reckons it was psychological, ie the body goes into denial.

Can see the point tbh, I was already dealing with a lot at the time I think I shut down over the baby situation and although I dealt with things practically, emotionally I didn't know how to.

Scorpette Mon 08-Nov-10 01:57:48

My friend's mum was about 35 and on her period - they were regular as clockwork - and felt like she was going to have diarrhoea. Went to the loo and had my friend! She was a size 10, with a flat stomach, and on the pill, as her and her husband didn't actually want kids (luckily, they doted on my friend). Although she sadly passed away many years ago, she told me that story many times and I've seen the local newspaper clippings about it.

SparklingExplosionGoldBrass Mon 08-Nov-10 02:26:20

If it 'baffles' you, you are stupid and judgemental. It happens for a variety of reasons. Get over it.

MoralDefective Mon 08-Nov-10 02:44:58

'If it baffles you,you are stupid and judgemental'
What tosh.
Just because someone doesn't understand something does not make them stupid.
Neither does it make them judgemental.

5DollarShake Mon 08-Nov-10 04:34:14

There's nothing stupid or judgmental about finding it baffling...?

There are a set of very physical symptom in pregnancy - the main 2 being a bump, and feeling the baby move. To not get ANY of the symptoms (including ones other than I've just mentioned) must be very unusual.

I know someone who only discovered she was pregnant at 32 weeks - she went into the hospitals in size 8 clothing. I know it happens, but I still find it baffling.

JeezyPeeps Mon 08-Nov-10 06:36:34

I worked with a woman who flatshared with the boss (both women). One morning neither of them turned up for work, and we were left a bit baffled, as was the assistant manager. Until a bit later in the day the boss turned up.

Her flatmate had gone into labour the night before with twins, and no-one, not even she had known (although she may have been in denial of course).

Sometimes its just not obvious.

nickytwotimes Mon 08-Nov-10 06:45:25


Your experiences are not the only valid ones!

Tee2072 Mon 08-Nov-10 06:46:57

Not everyone gets those, or any, symptoms.

I've already post about this on a previous thread but a very good friend of mine, who'd always been very overweight, never had regular periods, was told she'd never get pregnant, did not know until she went to A&E with severe stomach pains. 4 hours later her son was born.

I think if you don't know you are pregnant, any feelings of movement can be easily dismissed as tummy rumbles/aches.

Also, as I understand, if the baby is back to back, you may not feel it move? Something like that.

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