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to be considering going to church to improve my social life

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dilemma456 Wed 29-Sep-10 20:50:18

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Smithagain Wed 29-Sep-10 20:55:35

I'm an active Christian and I know a few people who have started coming to church mainly because they want to be part of the church community. So you certainly wouldn't be the first.

And plenty of people start out with only a vague sense of what they believe. Maybe becoming part of a church would help you figure out what you really think?

As long as you are going with an open mind (and willing to take the risk that you will encounter God when you get there wink, go for it!!!

GypsyMoth Wed 29-Sep-10 20:56:13


you go to weddings,cristenings,funerals......its no different
i had a thread in the summer about dd calling in to church for tea and cakes after her gcse the end alot of kids did the ladies loved it,and baked and baked and baked!!! vicar looked in and they all shared stories about 'in my day!'

but do be prepared for the anti god brigade to jump on your thread! apparently (according to sgb anyway)they are a cult in disguise waiting to brainwash us all!!!

GypsyMoth Wed 29-Sep-10 20:57:05

i like to go for the architecture and history element!!

shivster1980 Wed 29-Sep-10 20:57:27

YANBU at all. smile

Chil1234 Wed 29-Sep-10 20:57:37

If they were being honest, you'd probably find that at least 50% of the average C of E congregation is only there for the chat and a few biscuits afterwards. However, I have met a few fundamentalist christians that told me it's wrong to cross the threshold unless you're 100% committed to the believing it all. At the time I was agnostic but that helpful advice convinced me atheism was probably my thing.

Go if you want to... get out of it what you want to get out of it and leave anything you don't want to do or say behind. No-one (unless you meet the same idiots I did) should make you feel uncomfortable. And if they do... leave.

gerontius Wed 29-Sep-10 20:57:55

I go even though I don't really believe. I like the atmosphere.

MaMoTTaT Wed 29-Sep-10 20:58:32

oh whitecherry - I remember your thread grin

so did brainwash all the gsce students and icrease their congregation 10 fold???

or - do the local "yoof" now have just a little more respect for the people that go to church regardless of if they think it's a pile of poop - because actually - they were rather nice to them after the exams grin

rpickett Wed 29-Sep-10 20:58:45

I'm not christian and have never claimed to be, however I used to (as a teen) attend a social group in a church and I spoke to the organisers (very christian) and explained although I am not a christian that I would like to attend and they were very accomadating saying they would rather I went and questioned and maybe learn something, then to not attend at all so YANBU.

pointydog Wed 29-Sep-10 21:00:01

It is certainly not unheard of for people go to church for the social life.

Just do it if you want.

oneofthosedays Wed 29-Sep-10 21:02:03

I'm almost ashamed to admit that I keep thinking of doing this, it's the same church my friend goes to and and all the parents of the younger children are all so close and really welcoming of me whenever I see them. Thing is, I'm a pretty firm atheist blush, it's very tempting though!

EmmalinaC Wed 29-Sep-10 21:03:44

Go for it. My DH is an athesist but he comes along with me sometimes and we've both made some really good friends. He's even been honest with the vicar. Agree with the other posters who say that at least half the congregation in any thriving church is probably only christian with a small 'c'.

dilemma456 Wed 29-Sep-10 21:09:52

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EmmalinaC Wed 29-Sep-10 21:12:28

Believe me, in our church, there's nothing the 'proper Christians' like more than finding an atheist in their midst! They like a challenge - my DH is very clear about who to avoid grin

cat64 Wed 29-Sep-10 21:17:15

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tholeon Wed 29-Sep-10 21:18:42

I read a book (by a C of E vicar!) which suggested that some people might see God as a concept of 'ultimate goodness' rather than in the traditional sense.

He explained it rather better...

But - if you follow this way of thinking - you go to Church to look towards what you feel to be have some time out from day to day (try to) follow the Christian teachings such as love your neighbour as yourself...and to be part of a community all trying to do those things together. As long as it is the right sort of Church, and they do differ, people won't judge you according to what you do or don't believe or have doubts about, as long as you are respectful.

Lougle Wed 29-Sep-10 21:21:32

Well, you'd be more than welcome in my church smile. Friendship is not a bad reason to visit a church regularly, and Jesus' heart was the community.

Go along, enjoy the friendship and if you find that you get a bit of clarity on what you believe, that is no bad thing, either smile

FakePlasticTrees Wed 29-Sep-10 21:26:47

you'd be welcome at our church too.

Go along, I hope you enjoy it. Maybe if they have an Alpha or Christainty Explored course you could take part in that? (They are for newbies!)

moominmarvellous Wed 29-Sep-10 21:27:08

DD and I go every week. I was raised catholic and it just felt like what I should do again when she came along. However as the church is also linked to DD's nursery theres a real continuity thing to it all that I like.

DD sees the same little friends doing the same thing we do, I see people around and about locally and most Sundays we'll go for coffee in the hall after and I can catch up with Mum friends while she has a run about with the children.

DH doesn't 'do' church but is happy for me to.....not least because he gets a lie in and to watch the flipping Motor GP on a Sunday morning, then I come back and make us all breakfast!

flibbertigibbert Wed 29-Sep-10 21:29:30

I have to say that I've considered doing the same thing. I'm still fairly new to the area and church seems such a good way of meeting people.

I also love the hymns even though I'm an agnostic and not 100% sure I believe the meaning behind them.

In fact, this thread has made me consider going even more. I especially like this:

"you go to Church to look towards what you feel to be have some time out from day to day (try to) follow the Christian teachings such as love your neighbour as yourself...and to be part of a community all trying to do those things together."

LaRochelle Wed 29-Sep-10 21:51:12

YANBU at all.

maryz Wed 29-Sep-10 22:10:49

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DandyDan Wed 29-Sep-10 22:34:20

Also, there are no "proper Christians". Go along, enjoy the company, the calm and peace, the atmosphere, the architecture and stained glass if it's an older church, find what you can in what you hear. It's a community of people trying to listen, trying to practise being thankful, being prayerful, being nice to one another, gaining strength to go and be better people in the world, esp with those we don't like or love very much, even if people aren't brilliant at it, because none of us are perfect.

tholeon Thu 30-Sep-10 08:20:34

thanks guys. I don't think that there is a good athiest or agnostic alternative to good religion in the sense that I was meaning. I don't mean that you can't act morally without being religious of course but in terms of the opportunity to take time out of day to day life and in doing it together as a community.

The problem is I think that there can also be bad religion, which some people judge it all by. Rev Giles Fraser (another C of E vicar!) is my pin up guy on the subject, he writes for the Guardian and in other places sometimes.

Anyway, go ahead and enjoy it.

Creamlegbar Thu 30-Sep-10 08:30:48


Do pelvic floor exercises during the boring bits.

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