No idea where to start..
Both my children have various allergies and intolerances. Both undergo regular consultant appointment; skin prick and blood tests and both have auto-injection pens. Both are non-ige in their responses but have Angioedema so can then develop anaphylactic responses as a result.
My family (who I don't see that often) have recently decided that I'm making it all up and have mental issues. That it can't possibly be that bad and I'm just attention seeking.
Clearly ignoring all the medical information/letters/fact that my husband has been at most of the appointments with me.
Apparently I'm a mental control freak.
Where on earth do I start? Seriously contemplating going NC as I now cannot trust leaving my children with them as I'm highly concerned they'd try them with 'just a little bit' of an allergen, just to prove me wrong.
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Furious with family
Grammarist · 23/12/2017 03:03
My family is the same with me. I have ME/CFS. I am now NC with my brother because I am afraid he will seriously hurt me one day. All because I’m apparently making it up and have mental health problems.
My mother of course is minimising and say he wouldn’t hurt me despite the threats to punch and deck me. He pushed me over a few years ago because I was standing in the way when he was fighting with his wife and earlier this year he drove off when I was leaning on his car to prevent me from collapsing. He expected me to let go (which I couldn’t) and instead I fell to the ground. He could have run me over. According to my mother, these incidents were both my fault as I provoked him wtf?!. Apparently he didn’t realise I was leaning on his car. She also said I’m not really that ill. 
. I really want to make up that I have very little quality of life. 
My advice to you is to keep you children away from these people. They don’t believe you. They could put your children at serious risk and may give them dangerous foods to prove you wrong.
I’ve been to hell and back this year since the car incident upthread finally coming to terms that my brother is more concerned with being right than and point scoring. My safety has no place. He’s tall, muscular and obese. When he decides he wants to hurt me, I don’t stand a chance.
Please spend some time really coming to terms with what they are saying and keep your babies safe.
The irony of course is that your family and my family have mental health problems.
Yep I'd consider very lc and don't trust your children's care to them ever. What a bloody dangerous attitude to have I'm sorry they are questioning this at all.
Put it this way even if it was that you were veggie and wanted your children raised as so they should respect that and keep their opinions to themselves. Their opinion is downright dangerous in this situation so don't put your children in danger I'd say.
I'm coeliac restaurants lie to me all the time within 10 minutes of eating I have a reaction (not dangerous and I realise not overly comparable to the stress of anaphylactic) but it's bloody depressing you don't need that rubbish from the people that know you and should care 
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Hi OP.
My FIL and wife were 'ok'ish with it (ie didn't say anything) but used to leave peanuts out at toddler height when we came to visit. He had an ana reaction there one time (only ate safe, known foods so probably cross contamination) and now they think a bit harder.
My MIL knew 'better' than me. One time I left safe food on table for her to feed son (only time she ever babysat), she chose something else from the cupboard and gave it to him (complex multiple allergies so she wouldn't have known if safe or not). Luckily it was safe. The only other time she was there with ds (and I wasn't), there was a person trained in feeding him there. She is very aggressive and elbowed her way to feeding him. Gave him something he was allergic to (though thankfully not ana). She lied about it, told other person to lie too (she didn't). She got no more chances, and while I'm not NC, I have very little to say to her. What she thinks of me is her business as Long as she has no opportunities to hurt my child/ren with her foolish beliefs. We have a mantra that only a fool listens to what a mad woman has to say.
You definitely sound entitled and rude . Maybe you should take your rude and entitled arse elsewhere this Christmas. 
To answer your question. My brother is golden child. I’m the scapegoat. She needs him to always always be good. He is her substitute husband and was enabled. She let him bully me relentlessly as a child yet has rewritten history. According to her, I bullied him despite being 2 years younger, smaller and female, which doesn’t tally with her admission he struggled with my existence, pushed me over several times when I learnt to walk etc. But it’s all me.
I can thoroughly recommend low contact. It does reduce stress and anxiety as you know you only get contact for limited periods. If you need something as a cover for not seeing them as much because you can’t do the allergies fight, you could perhaps therefore be tired and blame it on your illness.
When I’ve had brief periods of feeling better this year, I haven’t let on to my mother and I have seen her a lot less. Confronting her about things doesn’t work because she sees me through the “bad daughter” distorted lens.
It sounds as though you have a bad daughter status as well.
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