Hi,
I'm really hoping I might be able to get some sensible advice here from people with experiences of allergies. This isn't directly my problem but I seem to have become embroiled in it and am sure there is a solution.
So, my MIL is allergic to animals. She is asthmatic and when she was a child she had a v bad reaction to a horse and was hospitalized. As far as Im aware she hasn't had a reaction like that to any animal since- she is now in her 60's. But it does aggravate her asthma- she says quite seriously.
She seems to talk a lot about how bad her reactions are yet I have never seen this- she says she has hayfever but again I've never seen her have any symptoms and although she seems to avoid going to houses with pets she does sometimes make exceptions and seems ok for short times.
We got a kitten a couple of years ago after I had done a lot of research about how to lower the allergens- we bought a hepa hoover and anti-allergy wipes for the cat and made sure she was outside/in the utility room when MIL came round. When we told her we were getting a cat she cried. She said she'd never be able to come round again, couldnt babysit etc etc. After she calmed down she said it was very upsetting we hadn't considered her and that she was worried the children would think she is mean if she doesnt cuddle the cat.
Two years on, she comes over, babysits, we forget to shut the cat out and all is fine. She's never had a reaction. She doesnt cuddle the cat but of course thats fine.
My brother in law and his wife (who have a v v strained relationship with his parents) has got a labrador. My in-laws haven't been to their house since theyv'e owned it as they havent been on good terms. However they've just had a baby and my brother and sister in law say they want to make more of an effort so my niece can get to know her grandparents. Not only has my MIL said she will never be able to set foot in their home because of her allergies, she has also said if they met up in a park/cafe she wouldnt be able to hold the baby because that alone would trigger a reaction if the baby had been touching the dog.
Now, what I would like to know is could this possibly be true???!!!!!! Can someone have that much of a reaction?
And if so surely there is something that can be done to relieve the symptoms even temporarily? She says anti-histamines won't work but I'd have thought they would have some effect.....? I think someone needs to tell her the facts of what she can do to manage this situation but I've tried to do a bit of on-line research but can't find much useful stuff about dog allergies and what the sufferer can do ie medication etc. Obviously she's not going to go in and pat and cuddle the dog but she is in danger of wrecking the relationship with her son aughter in law and granddaughter if she carries on like this. I would so appreciate any words of wisdom on managing dog allergies and on managing allergies of family members!
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HELP! Desperately need advice re. animals and allergic MIL!!! Long!
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loopennyloo · 04/02/2013 13:41
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