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slapping people round the head with a wet fish

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babybarrister Wed 06-Apr-11 11:19:51

Firstly this is only going out to the truly anaphylactic as very few other people really understand, no matter how hard they try ...

I am so sick of people asking me if DS will outgrow his allergies or regaling me with stories of how they know someone who has a child who has outgrown x, y, z.

DS consultant has just confirmed that on a scale of 1- 10 he is 9 so I am going to carry a cold, hard wet fish around with me to slap people with or just have a t shirt printed with

"thanks for asking - but no, he will not fkg grow out of his allergies ...."

rant over

still - on a "positive" note, to the extent that he ever drops any of the food allergies, he has picked up some air born allergens ....grin

topiarygal Wed 06-Apr-11 12:00:24

Yah to wet fish - LOL! Sorry about the 9 - that's tough.

My hope is from the Royal Free consultants who strongly believe there will be a working vacine in our children's lifetime. There is no so much more research into this field and so much more is now understood that they truly believe that at this pace, the solution can only be around the corner.

I like that thought - and once armed with my hope and a wet fish I'm going to be A-OK

PixieOnaLeaf Wed 06-Apr-11 12:39:57

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babybarrister Wed 06-Apr-11 14:45:56

I like that Pixie - yes you should carry it so that you too get an all over workout - let's face it saves having to go to the gym doesn't it?!!

consultant v amusing though - DS 4 and we were having general chat as to how problems change over the years - he said that at 14 DS would have to be careful kissing so would have to move straight to foreplay ....

Mummy then started wondering what would happen if DS developed allergy to latex in the meantime - hypo allergenic condoms anyone?!

oh for a solution round the corner ...I am trying to convince DS to be an allergy specialist with allergies - he seems to be convinced provided that he can also be a soldier - fat chance!

PixieOnaLeaf Wed 06-Apr-11 14:52:18

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topiarygal Wed 06-Apr-11 22:17:13

Does that mean Mummies can skip kissing too? Just to try and relate ;D

nottirednow Thu 07-Apr-11 09:11:08

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bruffin Thu 07-Apr-11 09:24:22

"thanks for asking - but no, he will not fkg grow out of his allergies ...."

I though DS wouldn't outgrow his nut and seed allergies but he has definitely outgrown peanuts and some of the treenuts. It is possible

UnseenAcademicalMum Thu 07-Apr-11 09:54:27

I'd like the wet fish for adults who seem to think it is OK to randomly offer young children food without checking with parents first:

"no thanks that milk chocolate biscuit you are offering may not have nuts in it, but the milk may kill him. Thanks all the same"

I took ds2 to a toddler session in the local library recently (fairly safe you'd have thought as an activity where food will not be involved) and half way through, the numpty who was running the session handed out plates to all the children and proceeded to give biscuits to all of them. No checking with parents first, biscuit crumbs all over the place, ds2 being anaphylactic to milk and me having not brought his epipen with me (thinking the library would be fairly safe, food wise). Totally irresponsible.

greenbananas Thu 07-Apr-11 12:39:11

I'd like a wet fish for the people who let their children smear ice cream all ov. er the slide in the local park. And another one for uppity mothers who openly sneer at DS eating nothing but a plateful of chips in the local cafe, when their children are tucking into healthy snacks such as yoghurt, humous, sausages which contain egg etc..

And I would like a very special, large, drippy-wet fish for all the people who tell me I am "just being negative" when I say DS is unlikely to grow out of his allergies before he goes to school (even though their friend's husband's cousin's daughter did). DS will probably have allergies throughout his life, and I am only being realistic when I say that he is unlikely to outgrow them.

But most people, are lovely, and very understanding once they realise why I am being so 'over-protective' about what DS eats and touches.

babybarrister Thu 07-Apr-11 13:24:10

I am with you greenbananas - whilst maybe DS will drop some allergies, I just cannot see that he is ever going to be able to leave the house without an epipen which is the only real test IMO .....

babybarrister Thu 07-Apr-11 13:25:55

ps yes, I also like giving people much, much too much info when they start telling me about they have read something in the Daily Mail that say there is a cure/it is connected to FF/cleanliness etc etc

grin

Pancakeflipper Thu 07-Apr-11 13:34:06

Wet fish to those who say "ooh we must be raising a generation of weaklings. Never had this in my day... No one had allergies then."

Actually I am beginning to see sense in theory that some allergies are on the rise due to the lifestyle of the past few generations. And it's now showing in the children of now.

UnseenAcademicalMum Thu 07-Apr-11 13:38:49

Oh and people who refer to both ds's allergies as intolerances. No they are no the same ffs.

UnseenAcademicalMum Thu 07-Apr-11 13:40:16

gah, obv that second no should have read "not".

nickelbabyhatcher Thu 07-Apr-11 13:53:09

I do think it's funny how people assume these things just didn't exist because they weren't diagnosed or called allergies then.
no, a child would just swell up in the face, and die - it would be called a fit or something similar and put down to normal childhood cause of death.

delicatequestion Thu 07-Apr-11 13:56:09

err wading in here,

There is a mum I avoid cos all she has ever spoke about is her DC's allergies and blames everyhing on them EVERYTHING (very bad behaviour etc) I think she is obsessed, she never talks about anything else at all.

I would like the wet fish to slap her with. I would also tell her to get DC to bed at a decent time as they look like they been painted grey with purple rings under eyes. I think she is potty.

Rant over - sorry if this the wrong place but Ive been waiting to get that off my chest, daresnt mention at the school gates as you never know who knows who....

Whelk Thu 07-Apr-11 15:18:50

Can I have a fish too for everyone who asks why my dds are both allergic?
And then proceeds to tell me their theories.

Doesn't really help.

Delicatequestion it might be me? I have defintiely had phases of talking far too much about my dds allergies because they impact far too much on their, and my, lives.
Oh and the purple rings? My dd has them too despite being in bed for 12 straight hours a night. They are pretty common in allergic kids.

greenbananas Thu 07-Apr-11 15:21:02

delicatequestion - have a wet fish smile. You may have chosen the wrong board to have your rant on!! Allergies can affect a child's whole life, and it's no wonder if your friend feels overwhelmed at times. Perhaps she does talk about allergies too much to the wrong people, but she might well be looking for sympathy and understanding, so please don't be dismissive of her concerns.

If her children always look tired, this might well be because of their allergies, and not because they don't get enough sleep. Try googling "allergic shiners" for more information. My DS is generally pale with grey shadows under his eyes, but he sleeps at least 10 hours each night and has a daytime nap as well.

My sister used to think I was obsessed with allergies when DS was about 9 months old. Looking back, she's probably right but, in my defence, I was feeling desperate for somebody to try to understand what I was going through. He had not been properly diagnosed, I was trying to cope with a confusing range of symptoms (with only google and the mumsnet boards to help me) and I was constantly terrified that he was going to die. sad

Whelk Thu 07-Apr-11 15:29:36

Can I have another fish for the kindly lady who, when asked by the playgroup leader if she would mind keeping her child at the table while eating butter as there was a child here with a milk allergy, said "Well, what the f*** is she doing somewhere like this then?"

And another for the grandparents who refuse to be taught how to use an epipen because she'll be OK.

Bitter old crone aren't I!!

colditz Thu 07-Apr-11 15:33:25

On the subject of "Children didn't have allergies in my day"

They did. They died as toddlers. They "Choked".

colditz Thu 07-Apr-11 15:35:25

And Richard III was allergic to strawberries.

greenbananas Thu 07-Apr-11 15:38:57

No, Whelk, not bitter, just frustrated - and understandably so. That's a dreadful comment from the mum at your playgroup!

I'm tempted to nominate my FIL for a wet fish, because he regularly tells me that there's "nothing like that" in his side of the family. It always makes me want to reply "Yes, I am fully aware that I'm the one with the dodgy genes" (but once I did actually say that and he was horribly embarrassed, so I felt really guilty). He also asks about once a month if DS will ever grow out of his allergies.

Wet fishes for all, I say!!! smile smile

babybarrister Thu 07-Apr-11 16:22:54

actually delicatequestion I made it clear that this is NOT the thread for allergy bashing so take the wet fish and go elsewhere as you are not wanted here. I have no idea whether your friend is exaggerating or not, I only know that I am not ...

mintyneb Thu 07-Apr-11 17:52:54

can I have a wet fish to slap DD's preschool manager, who doesn't seem to have yet grasped what 'reacts on contact' means?

she pulled me aside when I went to pick up DD at lunchtime, to say 'they've been making chocolate easter nests but I don't think she can have them - here's the chocolate packet for you to check''

so she's been touching the chocolate then, as you know she reacts to cows milk on contact? 'er no they were using spoons so she should be OK'

OK so DD isn't (as yet) anaphylactic to CMP but in the last 4 months she has been accidentally exposed to it resulting in a face full of hives, swollen eyes and lips.

heaven help the poor child who joins the pre-school who really will suffer.

Thank god DD is going to a primary school in September where they have a strict nut ban in place and fantastic provisions to manage allergies, largely I think due to my neighbour's DD who is anaphylactic to nuts and has multiple food allergies

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