Work Support Network Calling social services

[freshnewme]

Hi I recently started a new job and called the EAP number to find out about getting support about my drinking. I drink a bottle or two a night of wine, but still go to work and "function". I want to quit and thought the EAP could help me get counselling to dean wig my issues.

I explained I have a 16 month old son and live with him and my husband who is a non drinker. The guy on the telephone was concerned and said he needed to speak to his supervisor as my child is at risk.

I'm really worried now as I think he will contact social services, my child is healthy and never dad any issues and I start drinking after he's in bed usually after dinner and a bath. His dad doesn't drink.

Will EAP contact social services and if so why I'm so worried and scared now I called to ask for support and help not have my child taken away.

Can anyone advice me

[Apolloanddaphne]

Your child would not be removed even if SS were informed as your DH is sober.

[Apolloanddaphne]

If I am being honest, having been a SW for many years, that referral would come on and many social workers would look at it and say 'me too, mate. Me too!'

[BobbyBlueCat]

"I called to ask for support and help not have my child taken away."

OP, you do realise SS don't just take kids away and are actually there to do what you want - support?

IF they pick up the case, then they'll help you. And you'll get the support much quicker with their help than trying to resource it alone.

IF you're on their radar, so what? They aren't going to remove your child but your child would be on the books. Who's to say your drinking won't get worse before getting better? Who's to say your OH won't get fed up at some point because the drinking doesn't stop and he leaves, causing a relapse/turn for the worse when you are sole carer for your child? If that happens, they already will know your history and can help your child and help you. If none of that ever happens, then no harm has been done and it doesn't go anywhere.

There is no downside to this.