So, will try to keep this short. Ex has had YEARS of drinking problems. His pattern is: normal drinking > couple of heavy night> arrest/DUI/ falls down drunk somewhere. Rinse repeat.
He had one arrest early on in our relationship, I dumped him but stupidly took him back. Had 2yrs of sobriety and pattern started again. Real slow this time over course of a year. Friends ended up calling cops on him. He finally joined AA. Was probably sober 5 months.. Quit AA, started drinking again. His mum knew and didn't tell me even though there's a court order he doesn't drink round the kids (enabling). I NEEDED to know he was off the wagon. Our of the blue he asks to try our marriage again but admits he's drinking. Guess what he wants?
-To be able to have a beer when he wants if and when he moves back in
-If things get out of control (him banjaxxed & aggressive). I can call the cops... But can we not do the protection order again?
-even though there's a court order he does not drink round the kids.. He wants me to cover up for him cos 'people who didn't know him wrote the order and it's not fair'
I'm just stunned... His denial.. How he validates himself. Anybody else been through the same?
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Ex husbands denial is so damaging
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Totallyoverit · 04/05/2019 06:33
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