Thread 5 for Tryers to be Dryers. A thread for those who want support for moderating or reducing alcohol. Whatever you hope to do, whether it's to have more dry days, or be less wet when you do drink, come and join us for support.
Absolutely no judgement here, just friendly support and chat, the odd swear (lots of swears to be honest). All welcome, new and old tryers to dryers.
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Tryers to be dryers spring into spring, not as much wine, beer or gin. We sow our seeds of hope for a dryer season, but if we drink, it's for a reason.
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Frouby · 02/04/2019 07:27
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Dionysa ·
02/04/2019 08:23
🏅 to Frouby for thread titles. Hadn't noticed the other was so full!
Confession time. I did have a glass of wine yesterday lunchtime (it was offered, and it would have been rude to say no). However, being AF for the rest of the day feels like even more of an achievement, as I could have carried on.
As I went to bed, AF, I thought yet again that I never regret not having a drink. (Yet I still have a drink most nights 
).
Not making any resolutions about tonight, though, because I might end up disappointing myself.
Frouby ·
02/04/2019 20:44
Longest I found it really difficult when dh was ill. He has had 2 serious illnesses, his bowel burst and he had peretonitus and a burst appendix and very, very nearly died, and then a heart attack a few years later.
It's such a lot of pressure on the well person. You have everything that 2 people do and worry about, plus a poorly person to look after and when it's something chronic it's not like you can say 'oh in 4 weeks he will be better so I can cope'. It's relentless. So whatever you said, I am sure it was for good reason and you are at the end of your tether. 
and 
.
Not dry here but not soaking as usual. 2 beers and a gin. Could easily have done a 2nd gin but said no in the end.
Made lamb shish kebabs for dinner, they were bloody lovely. Much nicer than takeaway kebabs. Served them with kebab shop style cabbage salad, hummus, tzazaki and spicy mayonnaise. Will definetly do tham again.
Bastarding washing machine not working. Fml. Its under an extended warranty so they are coming out but not while Monday. Unless they get a cancellation. Fuck sake.
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Dionysa ·
02/04/2019 22:40
Longest, you certainly do deserve it. Being ill long-term is obviously shit for your DH - but it's also incredibly hard for you. I'm glad you have mostly made up, but I know what you mean about there being not much joy ATM. Hugs meanwhile.
Anglaise, I"m so sorry that you're facing surgery. What a shame the meds didn't do the trick. Well done on Day 2. My evening was a complete waste as I not only had 2/3 bottle, but feel completely sober. So I will just be fatter and my liver will be cross with me, all to no particular effect.
Sorry, too, about the bastarding washing machine, Frouby. Still, who needs one for the best part of a week? Bit shocking to be reminded of your DH's run of ill health. It's hardly surprising we're all here, really.
Flossie44 ·
03/04/2019 06:41
Longest - so sorry to hear what a shit time you’re having. Like the others have said..to have a chronically ill husband must take its toll on you heavily. You’re bound to say things in the heat of the moment..I’m surprised you don’t say these things more often. Shows what a caring loving person you must be. Does he realise the strain this is having on you?
Frouby - eeeek bastarding washing machine issues are hideous!! Feels like my right arm has been cut off in the past when mines decided to give up on me!! Those kebabs sounds lush!!
Dion - as anglais said..2/3 of a bottle wasn’t a whole one. So I’d say that’s moderating 😉
Still not had a dry day here in months. Varying degrees of wetness tho. Never a whole bottle. My moderation is leaving an inch in the bottom. It’s mostly this but sometimes I reduce it to two glasses. Trouble is the last couple of days I’ve had such burning when I swallow. Like the skin has been ulcerated from my mouth right down my throat and further. It’s bound to be from wine?? Have convinced myself it’s cancer and just terrified now. Why do I do this to myself. My fuck it button has just taken control and I’ve let it. I don’t drink til I’m pissed..that’s the issue..I can drink more these days without feeling whoozy..so I do!! Fml
Dionysa ·
03/04/2019 09:08
Flossie, I'd be thinking the same 
. Every time I have some kind of health thing, I'm convinced it's due to drinking, then am somehow unable just to press the off switch.
I stopped at 2/3 bottle because I got bored. It wasn't having any particular effect (I'd need a lot more than that to have an effect, now, unfortunately), and I just felt fed up. On the brighter side, I haven't bought any gin for several days, and am not intending to.
Frouby, can you give the washing machine a kick in the hope of killing it off? 
Flossie44 ·
03/04/2019 13:40
Anglais - I drink the two inches. Then that night there are 4 inches!! I just always want to leave a bit in the bottle. Makes me feel I have SOME control!!
Ahhhh good luck finding a clinic to help you. Sounds awful for you. But it would be worth the travel wouldn’t it? We drive 6 hours to my daughters consultant and 6 hrs back. We always feel it’s been a worthwhile trip. I really do hope they can help
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