I know very little about alcohol addiction so apologies if that shows. My dh and I drink socially, but dh has always gotten more drunk than me on nights out and dinners at friends, and even if we're having wine at home on the weekend he'll finish off the bottle and open another. Over the years I've gotten to the point where I know if I have another glass of wine it'll tip me over and I'll feel terrible the next day, and i stop. Dh doesn't seem to have that switch and just keeps going until he's blabbering on making no sense. Then feels terrible in the morning. He's not fun to be around when that far gone (not that it would justify it if he was!), arguing, sulking, not making sense etc. Certainly not violent.
He also often makes 'rules' for drinking that seem overly complicated (e.g. "I'll only drink two glasses unless it's the weekend, then I'll have more, but not on a tuesday") and he never follows them anyway. I sort of ignore it - he isn't making rules for me, I don't monitor him, or pull him up if he doesn't adhere to his crazy rules etc.
Last night at a friend's place for dinner he drank god knows how many glasses of red wine and went into nonsensical territory, clearly more so than our friends. I had a glass as i was driving home. I gave him the car key and said clearly 3 times to go and open the car so i could carry stuff up and into the car. I turned around and he'd gone outside, jumped in the car and drove it to turn it around thinking it was helpful. I was livid. He's never gotten behind the wheel before and could have hurt himself, the car or someone else's property. We'd have been fucked as he was clearly drunk.
He then started getting really angry with me that i was taking it so seriously (i shouted at him to turn the car off, get out right now, i'm livid etc.) and defended what he'd done.
It's morning now and he's apologised for everything, knows how awful he was being etc.
Do you think he has a problem?
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Does dh have a problem?
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WhatWouldPaulaDo · 05/01/2019 23:14
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