im an alcoholic who lives with an alcoholic in denial. i have periods of sobriety and then binge drinking.
my partner of 15 years was always a heavy drinker and i think we bonded over that as we normalised morning drinking and chalked up crazy drunknen nights as fun.
i have told my partner several times that i want to stop and need him not to leave alcohol in the fridge as i work from home and the temptation is too much.
he does this once then forgets.
i asked him not to drink at home or around me. he gets sulky and says you do what you want.
he doesn't look after me if im drunk like i would him. for example, i was drunk in the am and he dragged me to go out and do what we planned to (pottering around the charity shops). then got angry at me and left me in the town centre and drove off. i wasn't arguing probably annoying but he does the same and more. i feel like he should protect me and look after me more and also support me staying sober which i have been trying for the past 5 years.
ive talked to him about stopping drinking many times. i think both of us are sick and tired of seeing me relapse into worse binges.
i would like your thoughts on whether it's unhelpful for a successful long term sober life to stay with him or if it's an excuse for me to blame someone else for my own problem?
FYI the relationship isn't that fulfilling either. we have good days but it's mainly dull.
What would you do?
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is his alcoholism affecting mine or is it a red herring?
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userz000 · 26/05/2017 06:45
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