Forgive me if this is long, I just wanted to write all of my thoughts down and get some advice.
My dad is an alcoholic. I've suspected it for a while but is only in the last 6 months or so that his drinking is out in the open when my mum, sister and I came home from a weekend away to find him drunk. He has suffered with depression for a long time, he doesn't always take his anti depressants properly and he drinks when he is feeling down. He works from home all day every day, so he drinks when everyone else is out at work.
At first, my mum cut his drinking down to only one night a week. They used to drink both nights of the weekend. He showed improvements but they didn't last, and he basically spent the entire month of July drunk. When my mum found this out, she told him he could only drink on special occasions. For 3 weeks he was a new man, his old self. Then a special occasion cropped up, and the day after he was found asleep on the sofa with an empty glass of wine. We were due to go on holiday a week after, so mum essentially turned a blind eye and it was awful, he was drunk all holiday, and when we got back they basically went back to their old drinking habits of drinking all weekend. Then on Friday just gone we came home to him drunk again.
My mum gets very upset, she cries and says she just doesn't know what to do. I've told her my dad cannot drink anymore, that he has an addiction and he needs to cut it out completely, but she just says that there is no point him doing that because he will just drink behind our back and that she thinks there needs to be another way of fixing this where he can still drink socially. I don't think there is a way of doing this.
I live with my parents with my 2yo DD and she is becoming more and more aware by the day, but we have nowhere else to go. My DD adores her grandpa and I don't want her to grow up thinking of him as a drunk. There was an incident once when he fell asleep at his desk with my DD on his lap as she'd wandered in to see him, and she got stuck between him and the desk. Luckily she screamed out and I heard her and ran down, but it horrifies me to think what could've happened if she hadn't been able to scream out for me. I know it's not his fault, I know he's not well. I just want my dad back and I don't know what to do. If anyone could give me any advice I would be really grateful. Thank you.
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Lasagne1 · 10/10/2016 20:30
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