I know there's a similar thread knocking about but need a place to vent tonight.
My mum has been an alcoholic for as long as I remember. She's high functioning, in as much as she doesn't have a drink until an 'acceptable' time of day. So if she's at work she won't drink until after 4pm. But when she gets 'on it' she hits it hard and will pretty much demolish a bottle of vodka in an evening.
When she is sober she is the most beautiful, generous, loving person. When she is drunk she becomes selfish, argumentative, bordering on violent and abusive. It's a Jekyll and Hyde situation.
When she is drunk everyone around her is wrong. My dad bears the brunt of it, but if he's not there and I am, it will be me. There is always a reason or an excuse why she is unhappy and drinks and it usually boils down to us.
I live about 50 minutes drive away from DPs and have a DD of nearly 10 months. Because my OH works most weekends I like to go and visit. I know my mum gets lonely, especially as my dad goes out and plays golf or watches the football. But she always ruins lovely days with me and DD by getting drunk. I try and distract her, or plan activities where she can't drink, but it just mean she hits it twice as hard when she gets the opportunity.
I love her but I'm just losing patience. This has gone on for too long and it's emotionally draining. I hate who she becomes when she's drunk. She's obnoxious and rude and embarrassing. But she's my mum and I love her and I don't know how to help her.
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My mum is an alcoholic
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artlessflirt · 27/08/2016 22:30
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