I have one DC, 3yo. Am married. We have just enough money at the moment, certainly not comfortable but get by if that makes sense. That is one huge reason I dont think we should have another child right now, it would be too much of a strain on our finances. Also we only have a 2 bedroom house and DS would probably not want to share a room he is very possessive over it and I would want to respect that.
I am thinking somewhere like 5 years maybe? My heart wants to do it sooner than that but I dont want to make a muddle of things and I know our situation at the moment needs a hell of a lot of work first.
My reasons for adopting... I have no desire for another pregnancy really but I have so much love to give. I do a lot of work in relation to different charity things so I am well aware of the hardships people face in the world and I would like to do something to alleviate that for a child, to love them as my own and give them a wonderful life.
My concerns: I had terrible PND after DS and my GP and I have been at loggerheads ever since. She still insists I cant have various meds etc because it will conflict with my psychiatric prescriptions and each appointment I have to remind her I havent been on them since DS was 1. Long and short of it, I'm scared I'll be rejected on mental health grounds although I know I am no more a basket case than your average woman.
Money, does it cost a fortune to adopt? Does it take years? What unseen pitfalls are there?
I am happy to adopt from any country. I am happy to have a boy or girl. My only real concern is that I have a baby. I know that might sound hard or selfish, it isnt meant to be, but I want to have the child from the earliest possible moment if that makes sense. So I can love him/her.
Right - I have to go out food shopping but will be back and I will so much appreciate some advice! Thank you!
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longtermfamilyplanning · 05/09/2009 15:55
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