Have namechanged for this post so promise not trolling.
We have one lovely DD who we adopted five years ago when she was 2.
We were aware that BM was pregnant again with a full sibling and baby has now been born. We were approached by the VA that we adopted through as is procedure to ask whether we would consider having the new baby placed with us for permanency.
We have broken our hearts trying to decide what to do and at the end of all the thinking decided that it really wasn't the right thing for DD or us as a family unit.
The baby was born last week and I had hoped and prayed it would be a boy. I know that probably makes no sense but it just seemed easier to accept. But of course it is a little girl who is going into foster care until decisions are made about her future.
So why do I feel so bad? My head knows I have made the right decision but I feel that I am rejecting part of my daughter if that makes any sense . It feels like a bereavement.
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icantexplainhowifeel · 17/07/2009 21:41
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