I was adopted in 1972 and have always known about it. Last year after having DS, I decided to get a copy of my adoption file and answer a few questions. I had no intention of contacting them at that point.
After I got the file, I went a bit mad on the internet and have found out loads. They (my birth parents) are married, have a daughter and a son and live just a couple of miles from where I grew up and my parents still live. My 'sister' has her own business and website and my 'brother' is on facebook. I have seen recent photos of them all at my sister's wedding as her entire life appears to be on the internet.
It has been a year since I found this all out and I still cannot make my mind up whether to contact them or not. I feel like a stalker, I know loads about them - even where my parents live. I could be there in less than an hour if I wanted to.
I have no idea what, if any, relationship I would want with any of them. They are not, after all, my family. They are not the people I have spent the last 36 years with. I might not even like them! They are just people I am related to. I think about it every day though and cannot seem to close the book so to speak.
I have gone through a hundred different scenarios in my head. I don't want to upset anyone and yet that is no reason to avoid contact is it? The other thing is my own children, what will they think of me when they are older and explain it to them but try to explain why I didn't take this futher? Do they have any right to know more?
It's really starting to do my head in and I don't know what to do. Help!
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CallyR · 29/06/2009 20:50
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