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What age for separate bedrooms?

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WannaBMum · 06/07/2008 19:56

We are hoping to get approved to adopt 1-2 children and our house has 3 bedrooms. However the third bedroom is TINY and used as our office room. We were hoping that 2 young children could share a room, especially if they are the same sex, and our second bedroom is a big double.

However friends have said that SWs insist each child has their own room and even more so if the children are different sexes. Does anybody know if this is true?

What age can they share until? As we are adopting from Russia we are hoping to adopt two girls or a boy and a girl, both around 12 months.

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googgly · 06/07/2008 19:58

I'd be v.surprised if they insisted on separate bedrooms for children under about 8-10 yo.

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roisin · 06/07/2008 20:07

A few years ago a friend of mine adopted 4 children (all siblings), 2 boys+2girls. At first the children requested to all share a room together, which worked well. Later they split into two pairs, and when they were older two of them had their own rooms.

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Kewcumber · 06/07/2008 20:56

I think that they will insist on separate bedrooms for differnt sex children so you will need to show that your third bedroom could funciton as a proper bedroom - I didn't need to have my childs bedrrom set up as such (it was also and office). However the Uk authorities aren't the only issue - I assume Russian dossiers needs photos of you and the home and they'll expect to see two bedrooms if you are adopting two different sex childrne.

Are you being aproved for social siblings? Its quite rare for any councils around here to do that.

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WannaBMum · 06/07/2008 23:18

Kewcumber - we are aiming to get approved for social siblings. I know it is rare but several people on the yahoo mailing lists managed it and one person has just brought home 3 children! We are wanting to get as much info behind us as possible so we can put up a good case.

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Kewcumber · 07/07/2008 09:07

I have friends that were approved for two social siblings (though in reality they weren't at all and were in differnt baby-houses!) so I know it isn;t impossible. It depends what your council are like I think and generally how pro/anti ICA they are.

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mummyBop · 07/07/2008 14:16

We are in the process of adopting three children and the girls (4 and 8) share a room. At the moment they prefer it that way as previously all three shared a room and it took quite a lot of work to separate our son in a separate room.

We are lucky in that we have a fourth bedroom and at some point we will split them, but there is no rush.

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Lola234 · 21/07/2008 10:43

i'd say 10years old .

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