Hi I am 35 years old and was adopted at birth. I found my birth mother 5 years ago. My birth mother was young when she had me and she went on to have two children with my biological father. When I first contacted her she told me no one knew about me she kept it a secret from everyone including my biological father and her own father. It was only her mum that knew and made her hide her bump. She eventually told my siblings that they have a sister and they took the news fine and met me but she has told them to keep it a secret which they have for 5 years. I am now married with 4 children and they know that she is my birth mother. At the start she said she would tell her dad, brother the truth and let me meet the rest of her family. She kept coming up with excuses not too tell them and last week I asked if she was ever going to tell people who I actually am and her reply was you don’t understand how hard this is for me after all these years and there’s nothing to gain by telling anyone so no I’m not telling anyone. I felt a bit annoyed at her and feel like cutting all contact. Do u think I’m being unreasonable?
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