I have been asked by a close friend to be a referee for adoption. I feel very honoured indeed to be asked and filled out the form fully and honestly, giving details. I am now thinking ahead to the interview with the social worker, and, perhaps because I come from a severely disfunctional childhood home myself, I find I am keen to sit down with my friend and ask him my own searching questions before those questions are asked of me by the SW. I have realised that, close as we are, and trust each other as we do, it doesn’t mean I can guess at his perspective on parenting or his planning for the crucial life changes because the subject is new to our mutual radar. I feel guilt about wishing to grill him in this way, but also that my only real duty is to the as yet unknown child whose life might be about the change direction. Can anyone put my mind at rest that I am not being inappropriate in wanting to push him on what I see as the key points? Thanks so much for any advice to come.
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