We are a few weeks into our stage 2 assessment and my father sadly passed away on 1st July , he had been ill for a long while so it wasn’t unexpected. We have been advised by our SW we will have to take a break from the assessment to ensure I have properly processed his death. I understand this and have agreed to take a few weeks off but because he had been ill for several years and his health deteriorated gradually although I am sad and will miss him I don’t feel overwhelmed with grief as he was really suffering the last few months. I think the SW is expecting me to take a longer break than I feel I need as I have already grieved for the dad I knew as he was mainly bed-ridden in his last 2 years and spent a lot of his time sleeping.
We are already in our mid 40’s and we really don’t want to have a delay but she advised panel would look unfavourably on me if I haven’t taken time out to process his death properly, I do appreciate that I guess I’m just being impatient as the last few months have been so geared up into adoption mode - prep, reading, assessments etc… and then suddenly we have to take a break. I’m not even sure why I have posted this I am just feeling sorry for myself I think, I just hope I don't come across as heartless and selfish
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Honeybee45 · 15/07/2020 08:48
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