The first child we expressed an interest in and we felt very strongly about him, we started thinking about middle names and imagining our lives with him. Found out last week we didn't get matched. I didn't expect to feel this heartbroken (although that sounds silly now) people keep telling me 'there will be others' which is true, but not massively helpful.
Our SW told us it was a difficult decision and came down to finances. We are doing pretty well so even she was surprised. But we're young so there will always be more established people earning more than us. I just hope this doesn't keep coming back to us.
Just wondering firstly how you guys reacted to not being matched, it's hard not to get emotionally invested when you see a profile.
And also let's talk finances, how much do you have in savings? We had a lot but we've used half to redo the kitchen, which really needed doing before panel because it wasn't very safe or practical (the glass oven hood shattered all over me and that's when we decided to renovate!) We had over £10k and now we have £6.5k. I feel like that is a lot of money so now I'm panicking that it's actually not?!
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Didn't get matched - feeling very sad
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user1479136681 · 09/12/2019 16:43
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