My husband and I are 12 weeks into placement DC are 3 and 24 months they are both doing amazing and have settled well. SW from both sides agree that they have bonded with us and we have with them.
Although the placement is going well I have found it very overwhelming and stressful at times.
my main worry is that some days I just feel disconnected from them and from the whole situation of being a mother.. this normally follows a tough day. So for example yesterday they were both playing up a bit, nothing bad just normal toddler behaviour, but it lasted all day everything was a battle from eating to putting toys away to what colour top to wear. I was exhausted by their bedtime and today I feel very detached from them, and am very drained.
We normally play all morning together (painting,drawing,crafts ect) or we go out untill DC goes to school in the pm for a few hours, once home we play for a bit more dinner,bath and bed with story. But this morning I've just been sat watching t.v with them whilst they have been playing together and watching cartoons. I know this is wrong of me and I'm feeling very guilty, I just didn't have the energy to start anything productive with them. Ive had the odd day like this and I'm worried that I'm not bonding with them as I should be.
Has anyone else experienced this? Is it normal to have days like this? I'm feeling very alone at the moment and a bit worried I'm getting this parenting stuff all wrong.
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Pidge40 · 12/11/2019 14:08
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