Hey everyone.
I've been offline for a while but happy to say we are matched with a 13m baby boy who we start introductions with in early November.
I'm looking for advice on how best to manage his first birthday abd Xmas.
Sadly his first bday is a few weeks before introductions and just before matching panel. We've met his foster parents and they are super lovely and have suggested ways we can still make some nice photos for his life book by picking him an outfit which they are going to put him in for his bday take photos with a character associated with his nursery that they are going to use as a character to signify us as his new mummy and daddy. They are going to hold a little party for him their end and take some photos. On the day partner and I are planning to have a little bday cake for him buy him a card and maybe put some silly little decs around that we can take photos of to go in his life book which will be merged with the ones from his foster party.
My question is whether there is anything we can do to mark his bday when he arrives home? We appreciate that at 13ms his understanding of his bday will be non-existent but more for memory purposes for his later life. We are conscious our focus when he first comes home will be settling him in n bonding so have no plans to have a big family affair. Just wondered about any little rituals anyone else may have done in similar situation?
Xmas is also only going to be 6 weeks away when he comes home and I'm midnful that we will need to build up gradually to our family Xmas and have some contingency to help manage things. We plan atm to spend day with family but for a shorter burst of time and to play it by ear depending on how he copes. He is apparently a very sociable little boy who is used to and likes a busy home environment but nevertheless we understand everything and everyone will be new to him. Any advice on how to a)mark his first Xmas with us in a subtle but special way and b) manage interactions with family at Xmas given how new he'll be
Many thanks xxx
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teekay88 · 27/09/2019 15:39
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