Deep breath, this is a tricky one. DD is 9, joined us 3.5 years ago. The usual ups and downs so far, but until now no evidence of sexualised behaviour. We had the background info from the SWs who said at the time that there was no evidence of sexual abuse, but it couldn't be ruled out conclusively - they just didn't know.
A friend of DDs has had a couple of playdates at ours recently, and her Mum called me earlier this week to say that DD had asked her friend to remove her pants and, I think, sit on her (details are a bit unclear as I think my brain fell over at this point and I couldn't quite take it all on board). Friend had done it a couple of times, and then felt sufficiently uncomfortable to refuse to do it again. She also mentioned it to her Mum, who spoke to me (understandable). So, no more play dates at ours for a while. DD's friend still wants to come round, so maybe saw it as weird rather than sinister, but nevertheless, I need to investigate and deal with it.
It might just normal curiosity linked to age - they are looking at puberty in class at the moment plus she and I have been going through a book about it, although the stuff she asked her friend to do pre-dates this by a week or two. They made it onto reproduction today, and DD's reaction was 'yuk'! rather than triggering a different reaction. But I also can't rule out the fact that the incidents have come from a very different and possibly dark place. How do I start this conversation and keep it going without sparking a shame reaction? Thoughts, ideas and insights gratefully received.
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EtheltheFrog15 · 21/06/2019 23:14
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