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Waiting on child's social worker reading our PAR

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poppet31 Thu 13-Jun-19 10:08:12

We have read a child's CPR and are very interested. We think it could be a really strong match. The child's social worker has now been sent out PAR and I am just so nervous. What if she hates us? She has seen out linkmaker profile and seems keen but I don't want to get our hopes up. Just looking for a hand hold. The waiting really is the worst part of this process.

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Je123 Thu 13-Jun-19 11:31:03

I agree the waiting is horrible! Our social worker told us that they wouldn’t send a child’s CPR unless they were confident that it would be a good match. For us they had our PAR for a week and were due to shortlist prospective adopters by a certain date. Finger crossed for you!

EightWellies Thu 13-Jun-19 11:33:36

It is nerve wracking, but it does all sound pretty hopeful. Best of luck.

Serenity45 Thu 13-Jun-19 14:38:11

We've found matching process the hardest part of the whole shebang so far (matched in December originally, SWs pissing around until March, matching panel cancelled 3x). Sending you positive vibes the waiting is awful sad

poppet31 Thu 13-Jun-19 20:00:51

Thanks everyone smileOur SW is off until Tuesday now (the joys of part time working) so will keep busy over the weekend and try not to think about it (whilst obviously constantly thinking about it!)

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HoolaHoola20 Thu 13-Jun-19 20:22:00

There always seems to be so many holidays or days off 😂 A week can feel like a month, a day like a week. Keep positive and busy!

I’m waiting on a home visit in two weeks and everyday just seems to last forever, can’t focus on anything.

poppet31 Thu 13-Jun-19 21:12:27

Ooh Hoola that's so exciting. Best of luck!

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topcat2014 Thu 13-Jun-19 22:52:55

Adoption equals Waiting..

things sort themselves out in the end.

For us, our LO could be joining us in August, which will be just under 2 years since our ROI.

HoolaHoola20 Thu 13-Jun-19 23:23:05

Thank you @poppet31 I’ve found doing silly things like filling every day in your diary with something to so aside from work like seeing a friend for coffee etc helps! There’s something about physically writing an activity down for each waiting day I’ve found quite therapeutic. 😬

HoolaHoola20 Tue 18-Jun-19 21:26:54

Any news @poppet31 have been thinking about you. Waiting is sooooo hard

poppet31 Wed 19-Jun-19 16:13:24

Hi Hoola. We've actually just found out that the form was only in fact sent over this morning (miscommunication - don't ask!) so no news as yet and probably not any time soon. Thanks for asking. Will be freaking out anytime the phone rings!

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HoolaHoola20 Fri 21-Jun-19 18:19:05

Well I hope you hear something next week and manage to try and enjoy your weekend. It’s so hard not to wish the time away when we are waiting to hear something but it’s important we remember to enjoy ourselves still 😊 ........she says ......... having just re-read emails etc 🤣

poppet31 Wed 26-Jun-19 13:19:43

The child's SW wants to visit us! shockhopefully in mid July, just trying to iron out the details and work around holidays etc. Trying not to get excited as we're still waiting on ADM decision (see other thread.). But it's a positive step forward.

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HoolaHoola20 Thu 27-Jun-19 19:22:51

That’s amazing!!!!!! Will keep everything crossed for you! We have our visit this week. First it felt like it would never come and now it’s like ........ahhhhhhhhhhh! 😂

HoolaHoola20 Thu 27-Jun-19 19:23:05

*Next week I mean

poppet31 Thu 27-Jun-19 21:27:35

Brilliant Hoola, I hope it goes well. Keep us posted. Better start scrubbing my skirting boards... grin

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HoolaHoola20 Wed 03-Jul-19 21:47:47

Well the visit went well and they have said yes!!!!

flapjackfairy Thu 04-Jul-19 07:39:05

@Hoola great news . Congratulations x

poppet31 Thu 04-Jul-19 10:22:18

Amazing Hoola! How exciting! Our visit is 2 weeks today.

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AgathaCroosty Thu 04-Jul-19 23:36:33

Congrats Hoola.

I agree with most comments. We've been hanging around for ages throughout the process!

HoolaHoola20 Sat 06-Jul-19 18:16:26

Thank you guys 🥰 more hanging around now. Linking meeting is next week should hopefully get appreciation date and matching date after that meeting. I will be keeping everything crossed for you @poppet31 when it actually comes round you’re sort of sat there in a bit of a daze 😂. Keep strong everyone

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