Hi ..... my adopted daughter came home a little under 3 years ago, during that time we have had plenty of ups & downs & there have been times where I have really struggled but I can honestly say I love her more than anything. We do have lots of good times, she makes me laugh more than anyone ever has, she has good relationships with family members & overall we do ok.She is now 11 & the last few weeks have been really trying, we have now thrown puberty into the mix 😲 . Over the weekend she informed me when she is 18 she is going living with BF ( this is the BF who after only writing once through letterbox has decided not to bother anymore, she doesn't know she will be devastated) yesterday we had a lovely calm chat about how we can move forward and get past this rough patch. She said she wanted to be honest but didn't want to hurt me, I told her to always be honest... she said she knows I keep her safe, l look after her & I do everything I can to make her happy but she doesn't see me as her mum & doesn't love me. I'm heartbroken, I know adopting an older child the risk is higher 're attachment & bonding etc but after nearly 3 yrs I felt we'd come a really long way, she obviously doesn't. I'm so confused now & feel like our dynamic have changed & she just sees me as someone looking after her till she's 18 ! Has anyone had any similar experiences ??
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My adopted child doesn't see me as her mum .....
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Riley16 · 03/06/2019 19:14
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