My partner and I are looking into adoption for a couple of years time. I’m 32 and he’s 30, we have been together 3 years and prior to that I was married and in that relationship for 9 years...
The reason we are considering adoption over biological children may sound strange, but I believe that it is vitally important to care for children that have no one and I don’t believe in increasing the population of the planet myself (ethical and climate change reasons).
I’ve had some information packs sent from various organisations about adoption, the recurring theme seems to be having a close family network. My mother died when I was 30 and my father was killed in an accident when I was 5, I relocated to the Midlands 4 years ago and my only remaining family are dotted all over the U.K. I’m close to my younger brother, but he’s in recovery from being an alcoholic, he attends therapy and group sessions throughout the week and holds a full time job, so he’s not off the rails. My partners family live 200 miles away so are also not close by, he has a good relationship with them but suffered past abuse from his mother as a child, like I did. Both our mothers were abusive alcoholics.
We have a very small number of friends locally, 3-4. Most of our closest friends live back in the South where we moved up from.
Does anyone know if any of these things count as blockers to the application process? Does having lots of close friends and family improve chances?
We are financially stable, own our own home with no mortgage, both hold full time jobs but can afford to work part time or flexibly for care of a child. We’ve both had counselling in the past for MH but no current on going issues.
We are planning on going to an open evening info session to find out more but there isn’t one near us until July.
Any info or tips appreciated from anyone who has been through or is going through the process!
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JuneBean19 · 21/05/2019 21:41
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