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Vent vent screamy vent - a place for silent screaming(14 Posts)
So my two have been fighting and crying since pick up today at 3 - it wouldn’t usually bother me too much but today they seem hell bent on winding each other up and are driving me crazy, not least because most of the crying seems to be am-dram nonsense aimed at getting the other one in trouble. They’re good kids and have a really good relationship but they’re siblings too...
So I’m screaming here instead of screaming at my kids... please feel free to add your own venty screaming thing here, don’t leave me alone in my frustration.
You are not alone! My two can fight over an empty box if the mood takes them, nearly bedtime you can do this
Had to leave DD with grandparent overnight (in our house) including school run this morning, for a planned rare event. DD was so relieved to see me at school pick up she launched towards me just as I bent to kiss her. I'm going to have a corking black eye tomorrow, the cheekbone is puffy and my nose actually crunched. Had to swallow the tears and comfort her as she was completely overwhelmed but owwwwwwwww!
ASD daughter has slept 8 hours over the past 3 nights. Screaming/doing a demented bumble bee vocal stim continuously and nipping me. Aaarrrrrgghhhh! You are not alone!
@jellycatspyjamas, vent away, personally I find silent swearing to be more helpful. And I am a docker’s daughter, so I know a few choice words or two (even by sweary Mumsnet standards)
Today is actually the first day in a long while I’ve felt positive about the shape and future of my little adoptive family (so many issues, too little support) so I wanted to send some surplus energy and patience your way while I can spare it. My adopted friend and I joke about how we want to run a training course for weary adoptive parents entitled “bollocks to therapeutic parenting, just bloody do as I say the first time I tell you - for a sodding change”. But then we’re a bit worried we’d be mobbed with takers!
Seriously, I hope the glorious sun has been shining in your part of the world, that your two are fast asleep and you get a decent amount of time to recharge your batteries. What we are doing is hard and it can take its toll, but this too will pass.
Big wave Jellycat, I'm so with you. My youngest 2 are playing tag team with us, and they know it. Doing everything they can to upset everyone but especially the oldest. They are hard work just now....but a lot less hard work than they were 8 months ago. School holidays are round the and they're all moving on, I keep muttering to myself "scary transitions are coming up" to remind myself why it's hard. I find gin helps.
Moomin, please may I put my name on your waiting list...
My adopted friend and I joke about how we want to run a training course for weary adoptive parents entitled “bollocks to therapeutic parenting, just bloody do as I say the first time I tell you - for a sodding change”. But then we’re a bit worried we’d be mobbed with takers!
You sooooo would. I'd go on that one.
Not a screamy day, today, which is nice- but last week I was silent screaming every night.
Anxiety kicking my arse today. No idea what triggered it either. Mental health sucks big time.
Hope you get some rest Jelly and the rest of you.
@darkriver19886, nice to meet you, I’ve never been strong enough to respond to you directly, previously.
I feel for you, particularly as I have direct ongoing contact twice a year with the birth mother of my second adopted daughter. I can really see the benefit of maintaining this precious contact in the years to come, particularly as my toddler ages and becomes more aware of her origins,
Thanks folks, I think they’re both unsettled by the off school, in school, off school pattern since before Easter and starting to think about summer and transitions which are especially hard because they were moved over summer. It’s hard, but yes less hard than this time last year.
I’ve also had little sleep and lots of work so feeling a bit over it all at the moment.
Am totally up for the “bollocks to therapeutic parenting” course, may I write the accompanying book please? Hang on in there everyone, @darkriver I hope your anxiety settles soon.
Nice to meet you @Moominmammaatsea. I am slightly envious of your DDs birth mum. Don't be afraid of me I don't bite lol. Except on full moons... Lol
Can I join in the silent screaming please...littlest would not succumb to sleep last night at all, wasn’t gonna happen and I tried everything. I even got in her tiny toddler bed with her, but nope, sleeping is for wimps. So I bundled her up and we both took a settee each downstairs, two in the morning I finally managed to lift sleepy head to bed. She’d been out all day with the grandparents so she should have been knackered. She was very surprised she still had to go to nursery today because ‘she was very tired’. Last week she fell asleep in her spaghetti at tea time, so hopefully i’ll recoup lost sleep tonight.
Upshot is with both of them out yesterday and today i’ve Managed to get the house spotless, i’ve taken photos to remind myself tomorrow how lovely the house was (for a brief moment in time).
Ah sleep deprivations is horrible horrible, I feel your pain. My DD has a total meltdown over a water bottle this morning - absolutely out of nowhere, cue me handing a crying child over to school this morning.... oh the joys!
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