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Adoption card etiquette

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SamSpade Tue 12-Mar-19 20:24:15

Could you please let me know if I send an adoption card when the child first joins the family, or just a congratulations card initially and then an adoption card when the legal adoption is complete?
I may be overthinking this!

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Ted27 Tue 12-Mar-19 20:35:38

I was just happy to get cards, I had congratulations and adoption cards on both moving in day and our celebration day. I also had an 'Its a boy' baby card and balloons which I loved. He did as well - he was 7 !

Legally speaking the child isn't yet adopted when they move in but I'm not sure anyone is really thinking about that at the time.
I'm sure they will be happy whatever you send

clairedelalune Tue 12-Mar-19 20:35:58

I received them when child arrived.... I think as most people didn't understand the difference.

CharlieSays13 Tue 12-Mar-19 20:46:45

We received next to no cards which makes me a bit sad, it's lovely that you want to.

Maiyakat Tue 12-Mar-19 20:46:53

I received cards when DD first arrived. The only time I'd worry about this being appropriate is in foster to adopt when the child may return to birth family. Had some balloons which DD loved, flowers not so good as I didn't have the energy to look after them and keep them out of DD's way! SWs commented on how many cards I had, made me a bit sad as the implication was most people don't get them. So as has been said cards at any point much appreciated smile

SamSpade Tue 12-Mar-19 20:52:17


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donquixotedelamancha Tue 12-Mar-19 21:02:19

I may be overthinking this!

A bit. Just send them a congratulations card, it will be much appreciated.

Rainatnight Wed 13-Mar-19 08:14:08

When the child joins is usual, I think. Lovely that you're planning to do it and I can understand not wanting to inadvertently put your foot in it.

pastalavistababy Thu 14-Mar-19 16:02:44

A lovely friend of mine sent us a congratulations card and a birthday card for every year she'd missed of DS's birthdays. It was more of a gesture than anything but makes me tear up every time I think of it!

UnderTheNameOfSanders Thu 14-Mar-19 19:22:27

Agree you are overthinking. flowers
Send a card now, and another one later.

We 'nudged' people into sending us cards by sending out home printed 'Arrival cards' including a photo of the 4 of us and the d.o.b. of both girls. Worked a treat. smile

Italiangreyhound Thu 14-Mar-19 21:00:53

Tons of cards for birth dd, very few dir adopted son. So any cards welcome!

Great you are thinking and care.


jellycatspyjamas Thu 14-Mar-19 22:57:30

I received a lot of cards when the DC arrived withus, they are very precious to me as a marker of me becoming a mum. Don’t overthink, a nice card is a lovely thing to have.

Kewcumber Sat 16-Mar-19 09:15:58

I love people who overthink this! So much better than the ones who don;t think about it at all.

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