We have 3 very soon to be adopted little ones, 5,6 and 7, who have been with us for 6 months. It's been tough going, as we fully expected with 3, we have some good moments which we try to hold on to. We understand that all the behaviour that we are getting is communication and we're doing our best to use PACE, although we don't always get it right.
When will it get better? Will it ever get better? There are times where I find it hard to like them, never mind love them. I'm so worn down with constantly walking on eggshells to avoid the latest 4 hour violent meltdown. They can be such angry little people, of course they are, they have a lot to be angry about.
Our support network has largely disappeared, although we have been fortunate to meet new people who seem to understand (also adopters) Family and friends attitude is, you made your bed so lie in it.
Writing here as I don't have anywhere else to say this. The guilt feeling like this is eating me up.
Did anyone else feel the same and did it get better?
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CharlieSays13 · 02/02/2019 08:59
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