Hi all
I wanted to get some advice about adoption.
My partner and i have been together 7 years over that time my father who suffered from schizophrenia passed away he killed himself, i have had 3 miscarriages and i recently lost my son in november at 34 weeks pregnant. Im still very upset about my son and both of us are awaiting counselling at the moment so certainly not planning to apply immediatley. My partner and i went through a very bad patch between the second and third miscarrige we were trying to concieve for about 18 months and due to stress of moving house (our house sale fell through at last minute) and buying another house we nearly broke up it was the worst time in our entire relationship its like all the stress and pressure came to a head at that moment and we resented each other. We had a very physical argumennt during that time and my partner put his hands on my neck during a row and it did scare me and he then walked out he didnt come back for 5 days. I was very worried about him and rang the police after about 2 days i ended up telling them what happened. He came back and they arrested him which i didnt asm them to do, i didnt want to press charges as i knew everything that had happened leading up to that and what a mess i had been. We have done a lot of work together on our relationship since then it really was rock bottom. We are both still grieving for our son, but im anxious at the thought of getting pregnant again and fear now even if we wanted to adopt we wouldnt be allowed due to his caution. Please dont think hes the bad one in this, he obviously regrets what happened massivly but i too have big regrets we pushed each other to the point that took place we took the pain out on each other and i would say that was me most of all i was an emotional wreck and emotionally abusive to him, after the second medical miscarriage at 13 weeks pregnant i was devastated and then i was taking hormonal conception drugs on top when the argument occursed.. it was a bad combination. In the 7 years we had been together that had never happened before then and hasnt again after. We do love each other deeply we have just been through an awful lot. Like i say though i fear now we wont be able to adopt if we applied and dont want to put us through that as well if there really is no point. If anyone has any advice i would appreciate it.
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