We're 10 months in with our DD (5) and are looking forward to get the AO sorted in the next few weeks. However we've got a tricky decision to make about whether to maintain direct contact with her birth brother who is currently still in foster care and likely to remain so (and go to a long term foster carer). Sw has advised us that he believes if this happens we should switch contact to indirect as he'll have regular (if infrequent) contact with BPs and so raise the possibility of them getting in easy contact with DD once they're a bit older. We can see his way of thinking but want to consider the possibility of keeping direct contact for the benefit of DD. We're aware of the pro's and con's but would be really interested to hear of any examples of people that kept up direct sibling contact in a situation like this. How did it pan out? I should add that BPs aren't aggressive so the worry is more about inappropriate contact than danger.
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