Could their change their decision?

[MrsBobDylan]

I try to be short as I don't want this to be to identifying.

We have been told that we can't continue the adoption process because a year ago we applied for respite for our disabled child and the report made by PALMS (the CAMHS for disabled children) says we were struggling to cope as a family.

I agreed to this report because I really wanted increased respite, which we eventually got. We have 3 birth children and very much want to adopt a fourth.

We have learnt so many useful skills with each of our children and especially on how to deal with a child who has additional needs.

The SW has said to call again and she will speak to her manager to see if they will review their decision. We are not hopeful and think it's highly unlikely. If so, I just want to accept that we will not have a fourth child and to focus on the children I do have.

I just wondered if anyone had any advice or had been in a similar situation? We are happy for SS to view our medical records and speak to people who know us and have been very honest about our circumstances.

Also, we completely respect the decision SS have made but are sure we could offer an adopted child a really loving, supportive home.

[MrsBobDylan]

Sorry, just to say, we are in a different situation to a year ago because we have made lots of changes which have seen our son really grow. For example, he is toilet trained day and night now (he's 8), he has three hobbies he really enjoys, he is happy and settled at his special school and plays with his two brothers a lot.

[0rlaith]

Can i ask if you are both stay at home parents? Because raising three children, one of more of whom has a significant disability, is quite time consuming . I’m wondering how you will have the time and space for another child who will have a lot of needs.

I suspect thats what concerns SW, rather than anything in your medical records.