Hey all. It's been a bit quiet on boards with summer holidays so I thought I'd post a Q that's been on my mind. I'm early days into stage 1 (training starting next week and in process of all our checks) and I'm a natural pessimist so my instinct is usually to be anxious than to be excited
But saying that...i was wondering when everybody
A) started feeling that the process was becoming more "real"? (At the moment I can't help thinking of it as an abstract thing which is probably my way of protecting myself. The thought of a real life child entering our lives feels so far away)
B) started feeling able to start doing things to prepare for a child without thinking it was tempting fate (in terms of before a match has been confirmed). There seems to be a lot of variety of this. Some ppl I talk to do little things in stage 1 like start making some changes to their spare room or buying the odd thing. Others seem to wait til late stages of stage 2 or post match before they do or change anything. Both I can understand. Being a worrier I have this constant fear of it not working out or tempting fate. I'm a crafter and love to make things and after telling my mum.i feel scared to start making anything (like knitting the odd jumper etc) she s encouraged me to start trying to take a "cautiously optimistic" approach and start something small to help me feel more hopeful. My SW also seemed to be of the opinion that that mind set works well too
So thoughts? I'm just interested in the variety of viewpoints and experiences xxx
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teekay88 · 29/08/2018 07:29
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