Christmas Cards in July - Letterbox related

[YesAnotherChangeOfName]

Hi all, our DC's are 6&7 and have been with us for nearly 18 months. They have older siblings who are in long term foster care so only indirect contact.
Our contact agreement has been recently changed as their siblings SWs and FC's feel it's been unsettling, so instead of Christmas & birthday cards along with one letter a year, we now still have to send everything but all in one go in August.
I have no problem with this as an agreement although the christmas cards available at this time of year aren't great but our DC's have found it strange that we're having to do this and can't understand why. We've said it's what the social workers have asked for but they seem concerned by it. Has anyone else got a similar arrangement and how do your DC'S feel about it?

[Eatsleepworkrepeat]

I haven't experienced the same, but after this one could you get your dc to write a card at Christmas which you keep hold of until next August? That way both sides would be comfortable? I was going to say do the same for birthdays but if the cards have ages on that would give the game away!

[YesAnotherChangeOfName]

So simple, great idea thanks. Birthday cards will be manageable too as they like to pick brother/sister cards. Thank you

[UnderTheNameOfSanders]

Glad you have a solution.

Our BM sends birthday and Christmas cards with contact, which we hold back until the time. The good thing is that we know whether we are getting them so can manage expectations,

[YesAnotherChangeOfName]

We haven't ever had anything from BP's but did get birthday cards from siblings, although I think it was because our DC's SW pushed. Now she's out of the picture I am expecting everything to be one way We've talked to the children about how they may not get anything or may only hear from one. The joys of adoption!

[Oliviarose51012]

We were promised a face to face and later Birthday and Christmas cards would be allowed and photos and school art etc scanned by return prior to adoption order.. Everything was abandoned by the time the Letterbox was arranged. I envy those who get things other than pages of gloating. Getting a scanned art piece would be much better, but our request has been refused. After 4 years I would love to be excited about letterbox, i don’t know how much longer I can keep it up. By the time O is 18 she will hate us so much from the lies she will be told about us.