We adopted our daughter after multiple miscarriages. She is nearly 3, settled and a joy. We adore her!
We are considering another child. So, the option is to either adopt again or try again for a biological baby.
We found the adoption process really difficult and, to be honest, I have no wish to repeat it. However, I also have no wish to repeat the hospital visits, pain and suffering caused by a miscarriage. So neither option is an easy one.
The only reason we are considering biological (if it’s even possible) is because our daughter is doing so so well. With all the risks associated with adoption, I’m worried she will be negatively affected by another adoptive child’s needs. Obviously a birth child isn’t risk free as we all know, but I would know the risks.
What I do not want though is my daughter feeling second best. I know plenty of people have adopted after a birth child but I know nobody who had a biological child after adopting. I never want my daughter to feel that a biological child was my “dream” baby. Frankly, if we managed it biologically it would just be an “easier” route and less risks.
My daughter comes first though. Does anyone know of any studies associated with this? I love her so much I cannot bare for her to feel like the odd one out etc.
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