Hello all - my first post ever. I have been lurking for around 7 years on ttc and then adoption boards. We have just been approved (2 weeks) and have had a lot of expressions of interest on link maker plus now our social worker passing profiles to us.
Although we have some additional needs we are clear we cannot support, we are quite open about ages and other needs, and are actively looking for 2 siblings. Since being approved I am finding “rejecting” children very difficult and feel like our reasons are not “good enough” to do so. We are rejecting perfectly lovely kids
There have been some kids we have legitimately felt we are not right for due to their needs etc, but there have also been kids where there is no good reason to say no except that we ideally are holding out for one boy and one girl or that we were hoping for slightly younger. These reasons seem so shallow and make me feel dreadful and doubtful of our choices. Initially we didn’t think we cared about gender until we decided to go for siblings but now we are drawn to profiles where there is one of each.
Do you think we are being fussy??
Thank you in advance for any replies and all the advice you have all given out over the years I’ve been reading. Your replies to others are always so kind hearted. I have often read an OP and thought they would be in for a roasting but instead they receive a round of thoughtful and non judgemental responses.
I am hoping this is an adoptive parent personality trait thing that I will develop!
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Are we being fussy?
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DashOfMagic · 10/06/2018 19:03
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