DH and I have just started stage 2 of the adoption process. We’ve got through years of infertility, invasive treatments etc and we’ve hung on in there together. We’ve always said one of the silver linings of all the struggles with infertility is how strong we are together and how our fertility problems have made us closer than ever and we’ve been proud of how it’s strengthened our marriage and commitment.
Recently we’ve started to argue about just about everything. We can’t seem to go a day without at least one falling out. It started as bickering and can now be a full blown row with shouting, swearing and slamming doors. We both seem to have become really stubborn.
DH feels we should nip it in the bud quickly and go and see relationship counsellor. Im open to it but I feel pressure of the assessment is making us more prone to mood swings and short tempers. I also think the dynamic shift from fertility treatments that were all focussed on me to a focus on us as a couple has also caused some of this and that we can settle into this new position if we work on it between us.
I just wondered if anyone else has experienced relationship issues starting during the process, whether you went for counselling or therapy and whether it was helpful for you?
I’m really worried this will be viewed negatively in our assessment and could impact on SS’s view of our relationship and our ability to be adoptive parents. I also know that add a child with a difficult start in life into things as they are now could be toxic for them so we need to find a way to work through this.
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Chr15tm4 · 22/05/2018 21:06
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