Naming ceremony

[IAmMumWho]

Hi just wondering if anyone has had a naming ceremony once the child is legally yours?

Thanks

[thomassmuggit]

We had a Christening, which could be similar. I think Italiangreyhound had a dedication, which is like a religious naming ceremony without the water of a Christening. I'd imagine lots of people do, just as lots of people do for birth children. Why do you ask?

[IAmMumWho]

Just curious, we are on our 20 week wait now. Handed in papers last week.
Just thinking if it's something we can do if we get granted

[UnderTheNameOfSanders]

We had a barn dance.

[thomassmuggit]

You can do what you like after the adoption order!

[Rainatnight]

Yes, you can do anything you like! My parents (who live in another country) had a little welcoming party with friends and family. We'll probably christen DD cos DP really wants to and I'm going to go along with it

[gabsdot]

We have a naming and blessing in our church for both our children and then a bit of a party afterwards at our house for family and friends.
They were very special days

[AngelsWithSilverWings]

We made our celebration hearings into a sort of christening/naming ceremony.

We had family attend at the court , took photos with the judge and then went out for a formal lunch with close friends and family. DH made a very short speech to thank everyone who had helped us on our adoption journey and we had celebration cakes with candles for the kids to blow out.

The anniversary of these dates are now celebrated every year like a mini birthday.

[FreshAirHere]

Celebrate however you want to! I've worked with families where they've asked their older children how they wanted to mark the day and others who had a lovely meal and visit somewhere nice with photos to mark the day.
But make sure you celebrate! It's a massive achievement and well done you!

[monkeytoad35]

We had a naming ceremony. It was really lovely and in the same registry office we got married. It was like a christening but with no religious content. I did a reading along with three chosen guide parents. We chose lovely meaningful songs and had buffet, cake and bouncy castle afterwards. My DS looked very smart in his little outfit. It was a really special day!

[topcat2014]

We are (hopefully) at the end of stage 1 - so still 'early' ish.

But, looking ahead, all this idea of 'celebration' is leaving me completely cold. Maybe I am just not built that way. The whole of the involvement of the state is just admin to be got through.

I get DW a valentines card, and she does me.
DD gets birthday presents and christmas presents (obvs), but I don't tend to make a big thing out of other life events -

I need to work on how I view stuff, don't I?

Maybe when there is an actual living breathing child involved I will get with the programme!!

[thomassmuggit]

To us, the court day was admin. But we are religious, and so the christening was our celebration. Adoption is more than your run of the mill "life event", and something to mark it is nice, if only to put in life story books.

[Rockclimber12]

topcat2014, there's so much admin involved in adoption but the outcomes are worth it. Been in your position and I was impatient and didn't really feel we'd ever get there.

So much paperwork involved, sometimes it's hard to imagine there will be a child at the end of it all.

[topcat2014]

Thanks, I am feeling a bit flat atm. We have a new SW, who never rings back or replies to emails, and struggling to feel we are making progress.

Good luck all,

[Cassie9]

I haven't planned a naming ceremony or celebration yet but definitely will celebrate some how. Its such a long journey / process I can't wait to get the adoption order granted and focus on enjoying my little family rather than paperwork and meetings.

[Rainatnight]

Topcat, the stage you're at now feels like wading through treacle. But when you have a DC home with you, you might want to celebrate and it'll also be really important for DC in later life to look back and know that their arrival was celebrated.