Considering adoption

[Bubblegum89]

Just jumping over from the conception/infertility boards.

We have unexplained infertility and I’m in doubt as to whether natural pregnancy will happen for us. We were considering IVF but I’m now leaning more towards adoption. I have a 9 year old daughter from a previous relationship and would love her to have a sibling maybe a few years younger but that she can connect with better (she says babies are boring!)

Me and my partner are both 28, very healthy, non-smokers who have been together almost 6 years. However we don’t own our home, we rent and I wondered if this is the kind of thing that would get an application rejected as maybe it’s deemed not financially stable.

I have some experience of adoption as my auntie and uncle adopted two children as my auntie couldn’t conceive naturally due to severe ill health. Although they were 3 and 4 when they were adopted, they have no real issues due to their past which is fantastic. Obviously that’s one thing I would have to consider especially if we were looking at a child in kind of the 6-7 age range.

Anyway, I have no idea about any of this and intend to start doing some serious research before making a final decision as to whether or not this is the right path for us but any advice or info anyone could give me would be great!

[bostonkremekrazy]

Renting is no problem as long as you have spare room/rooms for the children. Your dd could not share a bedroom with the adopted child so you would need to plan ahead.
Its good you have experience of adoption in your family and that will be seen as a positive.
Adoption is about giving children a family, rather than giving your daughter a playmate - so just be clear in your own mind if that is what you want to do.
Social services are always looking for loving families for older children 3+ , so that is positive again.
Do more research. Talk to your aunt. Ask questions here. Read as much as you can. Adoption can be a very wonderful thing ☺
Good luck!