Is it going to be us?!?

[howmanyusernames]

Just posting for support really....

We have been told there is a baby we have been matched with....but alongside another family....

Last week (Wednesday) we met the child's SW, the family finder and our SW, found out everything about the baby, and they showed us photos.
All through the meeting the baby's SW kept saying she was happy to proceed with us, but our SW and the family finder kept saying 'if' we were selected. This happened all though the meeting, they were saying 'when you have x you'll have sleepless nights' etc, and similar 'future situations', but then bought it back to 'if' we got chosen, and when they left we were quite confused.

The next day we were told baby's SW liked us and wanted to go ahead but that they 'might' have to still see this other family so there's no favouritism, and so they are shown to be 'fair'.

It's now a week on from our meeting, we still don't know if we have been 'chosen' and our SW keeps saying the same thing, that they are finding out if the other family do have to be met etc.

Is this normal procedure? I completely 'get' that there could be more than one family put forward, and the child's SW needs to meet each one of those, but there's just been a lot of 'not knowing' and not really moving forward. If someone said 'they're meeting x family on x date, and we'll have a decision on x' I might be able to deal with it a bit better, but we just feel in limbo a bit.

Obviously we have been through the whole (sometimes frustrating and slow) process to get to this point, but I wasn't prepared for this. Is this the norm?!

[Italiangreyhound]

I think it probably is normal. We were 'in competition' for our son with another couple. I think just try and relax. If it is meant to be, it will.

Good luck.

[insmithereens]

We had two real potential matches in our journey, about six months apart. Both times we were one of two couples. The first time we weren't the ones chosen, the second time we were. Hurt like hell the first time. Craziest most amazing feeling the second but I certainly felt for the other couple having been through it. When it's right it's right. Really tough they drag it out that way tho. Good luck - let us know how u get on

[2old2beamum]

I am afraid I am going to be very naughty here, this has happened to us twice albeit some time ago.
SW visited from London to speak to us about a 5 month old with Down Syndrome. After a fairly positive meeting about a placement they said there was another family interested. My reply was OK as we had not met the baby if another authority showed interest we were prepared to be considered.
Next morning @ 9 oclock phone call, please can you give us a week, our beautiful daughter moved in 2 weeks later.
Several years later we were ? linked with a 5 year old (deafblind cerebral palsy) SWs visited and snaid there was another family interested and I said well another authority were also interested in linking us with a child and in all fairness we at our age could not hang around. Next morning we were his to be his parents. He is just so beautiful. Soft mother!
Sometimes I feel SWs play a game with our emotions.
Good luck and do not let them play you around.Please

[howmanyusernames]

Thanks for the messages.

We only got approved on the 7th February, so it’s all happened pretty quick!
The LA ask us to stay with them for 3 months, which we agreed to, so can’t really use that one unfortunately!

We’re trying to be patient, and I had a little cry today as it’s the not knowing that’s doing my head in, plus the fact they showed us photos so that’s now all I’m thinking of.

We shall see what happened, and if it’s meant to be it’ll be.

[2old2beamum]

Please excuse bad grammar and typos. Hope it makes sense.

[howmanyusernames]

So......our SW called this morning and said it IS us!!!
Really excited but don't want to get too attached just yet as I know things can still go wrong (still waiting for the final court date to happen), but.....might have just bought a couple of things from Mamas and Papas.......only small things....

[sparklepops123]

That’s fantastic! Congratulations

[GoodStuffAnnie]

Congratulations - that is such exciting news! xxx

[SanJunipero]

Congratulations! That's such wonderful news

[flapjackfairy]

Oh so delighted for you . Many congratjlations x

[darkriver198868]

Congratulations. :)

[2old2beamum]

.Well done fantastic news, please keep us updated. I can remember the joy so clearly it never leaves you.

[widdlytinks]

Lovely news! Congratulations mummy!

[Jellycatspyjamas]

Oh how lovely, yes to being patient because there’s still a road to go and nothing in SW land goes quickly but yes too to buying some bits and pieces.

Many congratulations!!!

[Italiangreyhound]

"So......our SW called this morning and said it IS us!!! "

YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[topcat2014]

yay!

[GirlsWhoWearGlasses]

Wonderful! Congratulations 😁

[insmithereens]

Aww wonderful! Congratulations! X

[Snowysky20009]

Congratulations

[howmanyusernames]

Thanks everyone!

In other news, after spending 2 hours on the Mamas and Papas website, and selecting a lot of stuff to furnish the nursery, the earliest delivery date is the 11th June!!! Like, what the hell?!

I have emailed them to see if this is a glitch, but surely that can't be right?!

[MrsMozart]

Congratulations!

No idea about the website though. Hope it's a glitch.

[Ted27]

I think most people have longer lead in times for buying nursery stuff!

Ikea ?
congratulations, happy shopping