Domestic or intercountry adoption.

[Imya40]

Hi
Would be grateful for some advice. We would like to adopt and are torn between intercountry and domestic. We currently have a 3 year old BD and have been advised that the bigger the age gap the better. I fully understand the rationale for this.

We are a mixed race couple I am white British and my husband is Pakistani. If we decide to adopt from the UK what are the chances of us being matched with a baby/ toddler that would match our ethnicities ?
We would also be happy to adopt an Asian muslim child. We don't feel that we could adopt a white British child as our BD is being brought up as a muslim although in a very relaxed way.

I know that due to the various court processes we would not get a very young baby unless we decide to do FTA.

We have also been thinking about adopting from Pakistan as I know that they mainly match approved adopters with new born babies. However for many reasons adopting from Pakistan will be challenging for us but not impossible.

We are struggling to decide which route to take so any advice would be greatly received. I should also probably mention that DH and I are now in our mid 40's so time does not feel on our side. We also don't feel able to knowingly take on a child with special needs due to our ages and our BD.

Thanks in advance

[Italiangreyhound]

We adopted domestically.

International adoption is very expensive.

I think you would be in high demand in UK. Depends where you live but many big cities with multicultural population would probably have some mixed heritage toddlers/ babies.

Good luck. your age isn't an issue.

[Dontbuymesocks]

I’m Anglo-Pakistani and my OH is white British. We adopted a mixed race (white and Asian) baby in the UK. Feel free to PM me if you’d like more info.

[Imya40]

Thanks both that's encouraging to hear.
Don't buy me socks - I will PM you . Thanks

[Rainatnight]

A couple on our prep group were Muslim and Asian and they chose an LA with a high proportion of children with the same background as them. They were matched very quickly with a very young baby for FtA

[Imya40]

Hi
That's also good and positive to hear. We have thought about choosing an agency or an La that has a large muslim population if we decide on domestic adoption.

Thanks